Leaving baby overnight

[CalFairy]

When did you first leave your baby overnight with DP/DH? It’s my best friends hen weekend in a few weeks and I’m maid of honour. It will be Fri night-Sun midday and about an hours drive away. The closer it gets the more anxious I am feeling, don’t want to let my best friend down but also I’m nervous I won’t feel ready to leave DD who will be 12 weeks old. She is formula fed so that isn’t an issue.

It completely comes down to how you feel. I breastfed DC for the first 6 months so it wasn’t an option to leave them during that time, however I probably would have attended the hen do (one night away) I was invited to when DC was about 3 months had they been formula fed as I think I’d have been happy leaving them with DH at that point.
Could you potentially join on the Saturday rather than going the Friday night? Then you could still see DD first thing Saturday and you’d be back with her on Sunday. I think that’s probably what I’d do.

10 months when I went into hospital. I was in a mother and baby unit so had her with me most of the time but dad took her 1 night a week

Socially 18 months for a friend's hen do. I joined for the second day partly for cost and annual leave reasons as it started on a Friday and partly because I wasn't comfortable leaving her for 2 days. One of the mums had a 6 month old and happily or seemingly happily spent the weekend away.

It really comes down to the baby. At 12 weeks my daughter wouldn't let me leave her with dad for more than 45 minutes. Grandparents struggled to even have a cuddle without her screaming. She wasn't diagnosed with severe reflux (previously treated for milks reflux which was woefully insufficient) and food allergies until 17 weeks which then allowed her to be a bit happier away from me but of the order of an hour or two. At 10 months she still wasn't happy about being with dad for sleep and comfort but they had to muddle their way through it together. They both survived to tell the tale and the family was better for it!

How do you feel about going? If going for all of it feels like too much could you go to part of it?

I left my baby overnight when he was 9 weeks with my Mum so that me and DH could have a night to let our hair down. He is breastfed so I expressed and froze A LOT of milk in the week prior to me going out so my Mum had a good supply. What I will say is even for 1 night my boobs were very sore even taking my pump with me for the next morning.

to be honest I didn’t feel bad about it, his Nan is brilliant with him and he was fine :)

I think Dd was 1 but she was bf and wouldn’t settle for anyone else.

I couldn’t have left mine for a night at 12 weeks, current baby 15 months and hasn’t been left yet and I declined a cousins wedding this summer as I’m still not ready.

Left my toddler overnight for the first time at 16 months, when delivering her sister.

Haven't left said sister overnight yet and she's 1 on Sunday.

I wouldn't leave overnight likely until youngest is 2.