Desperate help for 9 month old sleep schedule

[rosiebutterfly]

Hi all, my 9 month old has seriously regressed with sleep.
struggles to nap in the day, goes down at 8pm but wakes up between 5.30-5.50.
I have CPTSD and struggle to sleep so I’m probably getting consistently 4 hours a night and feel absolutely exhausted.

before 7 months she slept until around half 8/9am, so I am desperate to try and change the current routine.

can anyone provide a sleep schedule for their baby that I could try?

ideally even half 6/7 wake up would be amazing for me, later the better.

thank you

If it helps, my 9 month old is currently on the following schedule:

6.20am wake up
9.00am-10.30am nap
2.00pm-3pm nap
7.00pm bedtime
Wake once around 3am for a feed.

This is his natural pattern, his older sister was completely different. He definitely prefers a long morning nap, and to avoid this being too late/bleeding into lunch, I make the deliberate decision to wake him up in the morning (in an ideal world he'd favour a 7am wake up and a 10.00-11.30 nap, but this doesn't work for me with also balancing a toddler that still naps after lunch, and my desperate need to get them both sleeping at the same time!). So basically his wake windows are roughly 2.5 hours, 3.5 hours and 4 hours. Not quite the common 2/3/4 schedule, but with an individual tweak that better suits him. He's fed to sleep, but can also be rocked to sleep by his dad if needed.

That's pretty fantastic sleep tbh. It sounds like your sleep is the bigger issue, what support are you getting at the moment?
I know it's hard when your sleep is disrupted and you have a small persons sleep to battle with too. I have bipolar and it's triggered by poor sleep. My daughter woke up 5 times a night at 9 months and I had severe depression and pyschosis and the wake ups had a big impact on it. She's 3 and still can go through phases when she wakes up every 40 minutes!

When my son was 9 months we used a sleep consultant to address all our problems (we had so many) and the routine she put him on was:

Wake up : 6.30
Nap One : 9.00 - 10.15
Nap Two : 1.30 - 2.45
Bedtime : 7pm

@ExcitedButNervous0424 that's really interesting, my son appears to have found the same rhythm as your sleep consultant recommended. Maybe there's a future side hustle for him in it! 😂

😂😂

I wish my son would have ‘found it’ for himself….. it would have saved me £99 😂

Gently, if they are sleeping 8pm-5:30am straight through, that is exceptionally good for a 9 month old. Is this the case or are they waking up a fair amount during those hours?

Assuming you mean they are sleeping 8-5:30 and waking up overnight, N = 2, but, in my experience, 6-12 months is the peak of awfulness of sleep. Way worse than the newborn stage. You probably aren’t doing anything wrong, it’s just a really bad phase.

Having said that, I think overtiredness is pushed way too much in the sleep business and a lot of these ‘ideal schedules’ target way too much daytime sleep. I’m sure some 9 month olds need 3-4 hours of naps, but I know if my 9 month old has much more than 2.25-2.5 hours of naps, then we’ll pay with a broken night.

We currently roughly do:

Wake 6 - 6:30
Nap 9:30-10:15
Nap 1:30-3
Bedtime 7:30ish, depending on his older brothers antics and how tired he is.

Generally wakes once or twice for a breastfeed but crucially is pretty easy to get back down again.

Hope that helps.