My 2.5 year old daughter hates me

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I’m so upset and don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I have a one year old too. But my eldest just hates me, she’s been like this for the past 7 months and it’s getting worse. Doesn’t want me anywhere near her, kicks me if I try to hug her or kiss her. Screams if I want to get her out of bed in the morning and tells me to go away, won’t let me put her to bed. I’m sure this has started since the one year old came along and I fed her to sleep every night. I work full time and so does my husband so they are in nursery all week. She just wants to be with her dad all the time, what am I doing wrong and what can I do? Thank you

She doesn't hate you at all. This acting up is clearly some sort of reaction to the new baby which means in fact she loves you to bits but is lashing out at you....her safest person because she knows you will always love her...as a reaction. It socks being a mum sometimes. I think for now just give her what she needs and wait for her to come to you. She isn't developmentally able to control her feeling yet so they all come out in a jumble. Maybe your dh could do lots more holding the baby in front of her while you sit in the room doing something that might interest your toddler e.g. painting or playdoh...see if she will come and join in.

I thought she would have got used to this by now as it’s been a year but seems to have got worse. I keep hearing people say they go through phases but this is getting worse and worse!
thats a very good idea thank you I will try that! Xx

Hoping for some further advice, took advice of PP but it hasn’t worked, it’s been like this for 9/10 months now and it’s getting worse. Doesn’t help that my 15 month old is so clingy to me and doesn’t want to go to daddy much. Please tell me this will pass.