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Is this normal? Feeling a bit sad/guilty/useless as a mother of a windy 3 week old

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jellycount · 10/04/2024 19:55

Hello all and apologies for the slightly self indulgent post!

I have a delightful 3 week old, born by ELCS. She's gorgeous. However, I'm 45 and the sleepless nights were really tough so my mother in law has very kindly paid for a night nanny a couple of nights a week to help out. I know I'm really really lucky, but is it normal to feel a bit guilty when I hand her over? I know I'm a better mother for the sleep, but it does make me feel a little bit sad and guilty.

Also she has terrible wind which I now understand is probably the result of her gut microbiome being decimated by the antibiotics given during the c-section. She doesn't cry but she really struggles to pass wind and you can see she's in pain with it when it spasms. I have started her on probiotics a few days ago so hopefully they will kick in soon, and using infacol and going to a cranial osteopath tomorrow. I know she's healthy as she's gaining weight and her nappies are fine etc, but it's just awful to watch her writhing in pain. Does this ease eventually?

Thanks for reading this far, any advice would be much appreciated!

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Thumberline · 10/04/2024 20:01

Three to six weeks is the worst time for wind if I remember rightly. One day it will all of a sudden just not be so bad. It sounds like you are doing an excellent job taking all the help that’s offered so you can be the best mum to your baby.

Ready4ActionRyderSir · 10/04/2024 20:14

I have a 3 week old too, very standard vaginal labour. Same with my first baby.

both exactly as you describe. Terrible wind, gas and a bit of sick/reflux - very normal as far as I can tell.

Ready4ActionRyderSir · 10/04/2024 20:15

I’ve found that the days I’ve eaten LOADS of chocolate/junk food seem to be worse for wind than others. I’m breastfeeding. So I do wonder if this is related.

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jellycount · 10/04/2024 20:27

Ready4ActionRyderSir · 10/04/2024 20:15

I’ve found that the days I’ve eaten LOADS of chocolate/junk food seem to be worse for wind than others. I’m breastfeeding. So I do wonder if this is related.

I'm sure it will be - my DD is combination fed as being a c-section took some time for my milk to come in - but have you heard of Calming Colic? Christian Bates suggests the same. Definitely worth a look I think :)

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Angelik · 10/04/2024 20:44

Look up baby tummy massage. Was like a miracle for my dd

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