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I shouted at my 7 year old

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Sparklebaby111 · 09/04/2024 19:20

Just that really, this is the first time I have shouted at him and I feel terrible. He was playing up, upset over being asked to do something (wear his jumper to football) and he just wouldn't let it go. What I said wasn't bad ('I am asking you to stop answering back, not another word or you will not be going to football' NOT ANOTHER WORD! .....). He's generally a very well behaved child, never in trouble at school, always wants to do the right thing. Lately, he's been pushing boundaries a little at home, getting upset easily. I have to add he recently had his third airway related surgery - four weeks ago, (he has Tracheomalcia - rarer in older children) at Great Ormond Street, he has expressed some upset about adults making him do horrible things, and yes we have countered this by doing nice things and spending lots of time with him. Anyway, the point is I shouted, I know it was wrong, and he became more upset, it was a mess, and then he left for football with his Dad. I have never shouted at him before, I feel terrible.

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NuffSaidSam · 09/04/2024 19:23

Chill out. You've done well to get to seven tbh! Kids are annoying sometimes. It's fine. Apologise when he gets back and think no more about it.

Hoplittlebunnyhophophopandstop · 09/04/2024 19:23

This happens to everyone. You apologise. He learns that everyone makes mistakes, and the right thing to do is apologise.

Your child has just had another surgery which will have been hard for him up also super hard for you. There is nothing like the feeling when your with your child and suddenly their under a GA. Maybe you need to recognise where your at and perhaps you need some TLC.

EvenStillIWantTo · 09/04/2024 19:24

How is it wrong? He was not doing as he was asked for no good reason 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopandstop · 09/04/2024 19:24

And my 7 year old is being a bit of a dick this week. They’re irritating at times.

LoopyLooooo · 09/04/2024 19:31

Meh 🤷‍♂️

Kids need to know adults aren't robots and that if they push us too far, we may well react in that way.

You may be the first adult to raise your voice to him but you can guarantee you won't be the last.

Ravenclawhouse · 09/04/2024 19:37

Don't feel bad @Sparklebaby111 they push the boundaries and learn our limits! I have to say you have got to seven years before shouting so you must be very patient.

I also wanted to add my little one has Cystic Fibrosis and after treatment, especially after a longer hospital admission her behaviour is "eventful". But I am still strict with her, so don't feel bad xx

Sparklebaby111 · 09/04/2024 19:42

Thank you everyone, I really appreciate the responses. He just got home, I apologised but explained that I needed him to listen when he is spoken to. He said when I shouted it made his heart hurt because he really loves me...........sigh, sigh, sigh.......but just like everyone, I'm trying my best. I've had to make such huge decisions, but I know I was wrong.

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Hoplittlebunnyhophophopandstop · 09/04/2024 19:53

Only if it happens all the time. Not if it happens once in 7 years!

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