Toddler saying "daddy stomps on me"

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I have a 2.5 year old daughter with my husband who is an absolute joy and the light of both of our lives.
In the past few weeks she has taken to saying "I'm scared of daddy", and when I press her on why she says "daddy stomps on me". On one occasion she also said that daddy stomps on mummy. Today she said "daddy hurts me" but didn't seem able to elaborate any further.

The thing is, my husband and I have been together for 17 years, since we were at school, and he is an absolute golden retriever of a man. He is gentle and calm, and in all the time we've been together I've never seen him act remotely aggressively or lose his temper. It's one of the things that made me fall in love with him. He is absolutely besotted with his little girl, and other than these statements she also seems to be besotted with him. He's never do much as raised his voice at her.

He does do sort of rough play with her, like tossing her onto the sofa, or dangling her upside down by her ankles, but while he's doing this she is giggling and squealing with excitement, and saying "Again! Again!" so I'm quite sure he's not scaring her. She doesn't act at all scared of him, and will happily be left alone with him or go out with him on her own.

I can tell he's starting to feel quite sad about the whole thing but he's not really sure what to do. I also don't know how to respond to her, because I'm certain what she's saying isn't true, but I would always want her to disclose if someone was hurting her, so I don't want to just shut it down. She's due to start nursery in October though and I cant pretend I'm not a bit anxious about her going in and claiming she gets stomped on at home.

Any advice appreciated.

I can't believe someone would actually leave their trusted husband over a comment like this from a toddler, toddlers who say they saw a blue unicorn on the way to nursery 😅

As others have said do the teddy idea to demonstrate. It could be from the tiger game as u say or could it be something shes watched like where somebody or some animal was stamping so she says daddy stomped on me. I only say this because my son is a year older and I've been teaching him to always tell mummy if someone hurts him or tries to touch his privates etc and suddenly everyone is doing it 🙈 idk if its an attention thing sometimes because he knows i will sit and discuss it or just lack of understanding still. I hope ur husband doesn't get down i understand its disheartening when they say these things and we do worry because some people out there will be like what? And react which in some cases probably is needed. Hopefully next time u figure it out op

He maybe stood on her toe a couple of times? Happens a lot if your not looking down and little ones get too close and 'under your feet' (hence the expression).

Could it be a dream? maybe a reoccurring one that feels real? A friends toddler used to have horrible dreams that would bring her to tears.

My DD was convinced that we were spies when she was younger. As they grown up she has admitted that she truly believed that all of the adults in the house were spies. Sometimes it’s the imagination.

My little girl use to say the gay master was looking in bedroom window. I was there for hours wondering what she meant and she was like can you see over there. I thought I had a naughty neighbour. She was saying game master off YouTube 🙈😂

He sounds like a creative genius

I think it falls under toddlers say random shit OP, a friends daughter used to specialise it saying Daddy Don’t Hurt Me! And running away. He didn’t, obvs.

It’s good to be be cautious of course, but hopefully you’ll either get to the bottom of it, or figure out it really is nothing. My Dad used to specialise in swinging us and any visiting friends round by our hands at enormous speed, there was much screaming but it was v popular, although how no one flew off and hit a tree is a mystery.

massive overreaction!

my son told his nursery that a cut on his face was done by his dad, with a knife. the nursery said they had to ask but absolutely no concerns haha

Good grief. I hope you're not in charge of a child. Or even a hamster. Neurotic overreaction is just as concerning as failure to safeguard.

I was doing a weights workout once when Dd came into the room. I wanted to carry on and said to her 'don't come near me, I don't want you to get smacked in the head or something'
She later told her dad that I told her to go away or I'd smack her in the head.
Thank god it wasn't to nursery staff.

I think it's a shame if your dh stops the rough play. Dc really tend to love it. They know they're safe and there are a lot of benefits from it. It's also a unique way for your dh and d to connect.

Kids of that age are like animals - they have no concept of what's good for them, and no concrete way of communicating that certain play isn't ok for them.

It's up to parents to safely set the limits.

I had a friend whose toddler loved being swung by her hands and that was all fun and games until the parents dislocated the kid's shoulder and they all ended up in A and E.

She's not more than a baby.

Rein it in a bit and stop expecting her to give you clues about her wellbeing - you are the parents.

In view of everything the OP has said, this really is taking LTB to a ridiculous level.

You need to get a grip.

My two toddlers are non verbal so I don’t have any personal experience but my friend has a son who’s now 3. A couple of months ago he told me he was getting married (all because his mum bought him a white outfit and when he tried it on, he thought he was getting married😂) young children say all sorts at that age. Packing your bags without actually finding out what your child means is ridiculous

Rein it in a bit and stop expecting her to give you clues about her wellbeing - you are the parents.

@ifyouthinkimrexy do you have children? Are they toddlers? I don’t know one toddler that doesn’t like a bit of rough play. This can be anything from being thrown into the air, spun around or tickling them on the sofa.

You’re being very dramatic by saying ‘stop expecting her to give you clues about her wellbeing’ are you serious right now?

Yes I have children. No they aren't toddlers any more. They were toddlers once.

The only recent poster I can see who is being overdramatic is you, with your 'get a grip'.

I don't feel the need to engage with you further.

Jesus wept!

At that age my daughter announced she was an alien and from the planet Zog.

Children have vivid imaginations and also see things from a different perspective.

Your over reaction is quite frankly, disgusting.

Did I say ‘get a grip’ to you or the poster who said they would have packed their bags immediately? I don’t see how my comment to anyone else has anything to do with you but okay!

Taking time to check in with your emotional state and self regulate might help.

I wish you well.

It doesn’t. It sounds like toddler talk.

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The notion out forward of a child remembering a past life is hilarious.

Perhaps in a past life your daughter was Italian and fell into a grape barrel and was stomped on by her father treading grapes?!

How utterly absurd!

You'll get there. One day.

Maybe he could just read to her instead. Reading together can be their thing instead of the rough and tumble.

I don't feel the need to engage with you further.

Yet two posts later, here you still are?😉Enjoy the rest of your night😆

Omg, please stop it.

Both of you