"Threenagers"

[Darcy86]

Has anyone else got a 3yo with a foul attitude? Occasionally he's happy but tends to only be when he's getting what he wants and he can snap out of it in seconds, then is suddenly fuming about everything and even his favourite things can't act as a distraction. He has started to be quite rude to us and relatives, shouting to go away/be quiet and refusing to say hi/bye etc. Is this just a phase? He's been a relatively happy child up until recently. We do have a 4mo baby too so wonder if he's still adjusting. Sometimes I think he's playing/acting putting on an "angry " face but then most of the time it seems he's genuinely angry. Other 3yos I know don't seem to have quite the same sort of mood swings so just wondering what others have experienced at this age?

Long time ago now but we sailed through the terrible twos with dts. I was so smug. Then threenagers hit. It was hideous. Sympathy

Thank you for posting OP. Watching with interest - no words of advice but posting in solidarity and in hope of advice too!

DS3 was absoutely delightful until recently - speaking, eating and sleeping beautifully, a relaxed and loving little boy - now he is tantrumming over everything and just so controlling and unreasonable, every day feels like a battle. I'm expecting a baby next month so struggling in the last trimester of pregnancy and really worried about how I'll manage DS and a newborn.

Solidarity with you both in that case! Yes I was also quite smug about the terrible twos...bit me right in the bum. Congrats on your pregnancy @tortiecat - it's just all about survival in those early weeks/months - to be honest I still feel that way now at 4m postpartum! But you'll get through it.

My husband and I are pretty chill and rarely argue especially in front of him so I just wonder where this shouting and some of the language has come from - not swearing but things like "go away" - we never say this sort of stuff!

Thank you @Darcy86! & congratulations to you too!
Yes we have a lot of GO AWAY too. I think in DS' case it might come from nursery.

We're trying to model kind but firm behaviour at home, not giving in to the rages, DH is much better at playing games / using distractions than I am but it is hard when DS gets so furious so quickly at virtually everything.
Just hope this is another phase (and one that will be over quickly...)