Boring robotic life

[Leanne1191]

Hi everyone.

I'm a single mum off 4 and I'm just soo bored of my life. I don't get no me time ever and my social life is none existent 😞 I always have my 11 month old with me or my three boys. The boys dad has them every other weekend and I've asked my daughters dad if he will have her the same weekend but he just keeps making excuses and refuses too have her the same weekend and won't, I can't go back to work, I can't go out with friends I can't even look at dating again I just feel soo fed up all I do is cook, clean, do washing and go to appointments! I don't get any time to myself because the boys go to their dads one weekend but I still have my daughter then the weekend she goes to her dads I have the three boys! I have no support from family or friends and have no one who can have them it's just soo hard. I just feel is this what my life has come to now? I don't enjoy life anymore and just feel alone 😞 every mum/dad deserves some of them time but it's literally just non existent for me. Just gets me down a lot! Sorry just feel MEHHH 😩

Hats off to anyone with 4 kids, it sounds tough.
And doing it by yourself, too! Take care, OP x

I think only rich people can have four children and not feel like you. It’s probably going to be drudgery for years. Are you bringing them all up to be able to cook and clean? If you all pitch in together then it might get better sooner rather than later.

good luck!

Hi Leanne!

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you with 4 kids, but my wee one is only a month old and I'm bring her up on my own as ex husband doesn't want to be involved.

I do have similar thoughts and feeling being the cook, cleaner etc. It can feel so isolating and almost feels like life outside of a mum is over (although we would never trade our kids). It sad that we don't get a bit of me time because the other parent is a waste of space. I do have family and friends so I am lucky in that aspect.
How old is your oldest child?
You said you don't have any family or friends for support...I know there are resources out there where other parents are in similar situations. Maybe you could make friends that way and take turns babysitting for each other? Xx

Pay for a babysitter when you have your DD only?