Lots of boys, then a girl!

[Kittykiki]

I am well aware that sex does not determine gender/ personality etc, and that experiences will massively vary - I'm just very excited about the newest addition to our family and would enjoy hearing other experiences of similar situations!

We have 3 wonderful boys, and just found out that our (definitely final!) baby is a girl. I'm over the moon, but it genuinely hadn't crossed my mind it might be a girl (it will be the first for 3 generations in dh's family) and all of my imaginings had been of 4 boys!

Would love to hear from others who have had 2 or more boys and then a girl.

Was it different? Was the girl just another member of the gang, or do you think it's difficult for her being the only one of one sex? If so - is there anything you found to make it better for her? So far comments have implied she will either be a "little princess" or a massive "tomboy" (both extremely annoying expressions!)- was there any truth in this from your exp? Did you feel that she was able to be herself and follow her interests etc? Did she get pigeon-holed in to being a particular way (either super girly or opposite) and any tips on mitigating that?

I am incredibly close to my sister, so have no idea what it's like to be a girl without one ! I hope she won't feel left out given the others have several same sex siblings? My eldest is 6, so they will all be pretty close together in age.

We have always plenty of dolls / babies / crafty bits / toy kitchen etc which the boys have all played with too, so hoping that we can mitigate some of the limiting gender assumptions around play on that front, but would love to hear experiences and advice!

Thank you!

Not the same situation as yours. We have 2 girls and 2 boys. The littlest doesn't play yet, but we found the older 3 all play with the same things, we don't have girl and boys toys. The stereotypes they pick up at school age whatever you do.

I have found my girls to be more similar in character/timing of milestones than they are to their brothers. But they still all rub along just fine.

Congrats
That's Lovely.
My dm's best friend had 3 older brothers.
The only thing I can remember dm telling me was, that if her friend was in the pub with a fellow and one of her brothers came in , she'd have to quickly sneak out the back door.
So they were very protective of her.

Thanks @TinyTeachr - that's reassuring that ATM they all rub along fine together. I think maybe I'm just overthinking it!

@TammyJones haha that's funny - built in bodyguards!

Not me personally - I have three boys and decided to stop then - but I was in school with a girl who was the youngest of seven and had six older brothers. They absolutely adored her and were very protective of her, like her personal team of bodyguards! It never went to her head though - she was (and is) a lovely person.

2 boys and a girl here. She's just fit right in. Played with her brothers a lot. As a consequence, she tends to have lots of male friends at school. Her best friend is a boy.
She loves traditionally girly stuff too but would do things like chase her brothers with a nerf gun in a princess dress and a tiara.
I used to have to tell her to take it down with the zombie and shooting talk at school. I didn't want horrified mums complaining about her.

After 4 boys I have a little girl (also first girl in my family for 45 years). It took me a while to get used to the idea that she was a girl rather than a little boy in a dress but of course she has fitted into our family perfectly. She plays with the toys we have whether that's a car or a doll but she's definitely not keen on any rough and tumble type play. She is still quite little so I have no advice but I don't treat or parent her any differently to the boys although I do feel I worry more about things because she's a girl that probably wouldn't have crossed my mind with the others.

Thanks everyone - these are lovely to read! V sweet to hear about the team of protection officers@TheRulerofThings and love the image of a nerf gun+ tiara 😂 @HighQueenOfTheFarRealm

@Alltheusefulitems - "a little boy in a dress" is exactly as I keep finding myself picturing her too ! But great to hear she's found her perfect place and everything has slotted together 🥰

Not quite the same, but I have boy, girl, boy and my little girl is super close to her older brother and dotes on her little brother. She’s just one of the gang, in fact probably the leader of the gang! She has 4 girl cousins and lots of girl friends and we are really close but she certainly loves her brothers and doesn’t seem left out. Different order from you so may be a little different but I think it’s lovely :) congrats!!