Am I the dickhead?

[majortryhard]

Am I the dickhead for allowing my sister to help tidy around the house less than three weeks postpartum / after a C-section. She came over today and gave me a hand and my partner is saying he doesn't want it to happen again and he finds it really rude and disrespectful. He threw some things around upstairs and went to bed without talking to me. I really am confused.

Throwing things around and not talking to you - as soon as you are physically able, get the hell out of that relationship. He’s an arsehole - as I’m sure you do know yourself. You’ve just had a child FFS and he behaves like that? I’d put money on this not being the first indication of his awful attitude.

I would be upset if someones sister had been sorting out my possessions in my house, but your partner needs to complain politely, and do the housework himself

If the lazy prick was pulling his weight you wouldn’t need your sister to help out. But either way he is being a total idiot. Your sister did a nice thing and no doubt you enjoyed the time with her and felt supported.

Ugh another thread about a nasty selfish man.

He can fucking do it then. What an utter twat.

‘Throwing things round’ is intimidation and a precursor to violence more often than not.

she had to help you - because he’d failed to step up.

he was angry that it was silently pointed out that he’s a bad man.

because .. he’s a bad man.

You've just had major abdominal surgery, does he even realise that, really? I would be following the medical advice about lifting, physical work etc to the letter and essentially going on strike for anything else. He either does it himself or he hires someone to do it if he won't let family help. Honestly!