How to fairly split holidays

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When one parent works full time and the other works 2.5days a week.

I've said we could split it 2.5 days each. DH says that's not fair as his work is more impacted than mine by that.

I can't see another option. Any suggestions welcome!

Use childcare?

Sure...Our children are enrolled in classes but they don't cover every day that way.

Assuming we had no childcare I'm asking what would be fair

Presumably you share all costs as a married couple so book childcare for the days you don't want to do, and pay out of the joint account.

I don’t understand, are you arguing over how much leave you each have to take?

2.5 days each means the part time person isn’t taking any time off, just working their usual? i can sort of see why that annoys your dh assuming he’s full time, but there must be more to this. Is there resentment about the parenting load? Did you not want to go part time but felt you had to to make the family work? Is there not childcare?

How many days leave do you each get? Do you want some time off together? How much time can you get classes/childcare for? We split ours so I would do one week, DH another, we would have some together and childcare for the rest.

Assuming that you're together as a couple (and no childcare), you split the 2.5 days a week that you're both working in half, so 1.25 working days to cover each.

Realistically, you just use childcare for those days though.

Work it out as OP takes 2.5 days off for 10 days holidays and DP takes 5 days off for 10 days holidays.

Surely you both use the same proportion of leave, so the full time person takes 2x the number of days e.g. full time person 4 days, part time person 2 days or however much you need to cover the holidays minus the time they are in clubs.

DC have 10 days off school. I will cover 5 of those as I work PT. They have one day of clubs.

I had assumed DH would cover th other four days. He says that's not fair as I'm covering the kids on my non work days therefore my job isn't impacted.

I'm not sure how you can't possibly see any other option other than 2.5 days a week each.

I kinda agree with you dh that that wouldn't be fair to him. Every 2.5 days he covered, he'd use up 2.5 days leave. Where as every 2.5 days you covered you wouldn't be using any leave as it's days you don't work anyway.

I'd assume that between you, you only needed to cover 2.5 days a week, not 5, because the part time person will have them for the 2.5 days they are not working.

Some of those 2.5 days can be covered by childcare. Any days left you split between you wherever possible.

You have the kids 5 days out of 10, childcare for 1 day. You should both then take 2 days off to cover the remaining 4?

You split the 2.5 days between you - you take a day and a couple hours off so does DH if you guys are that set on splitting it equally.
we both work FT and pay for childcare mostly - if we are WfH the eldest can stay home sometimes and play out youngest goes holiday club. Or eldest goes sports club.

we split our leave for family holidays and the see whats left - sometimes he takes more in sat summer hols - but I take more in oct.

He’s got a fair rationale really - out of the days left you both take one each week, so two in total

I agree with him. The way you are suggesting, he's going to run out of leave very quickly and you will still have your full leave allowance to use.

In this case I'd suggest either cover 2 days each or you do 1 and he does 3, as he does get more days leave than you.

I totally agree with him.

Presumably the reason you work 2.5 days is to look after the kids on your non-work days. It's not fair to then claim that is your 'share' of the holiday parenting. For the remaining 4 days, you should be responsible for 1-2 days and he can do 2-3 days.

Take whole weeks. The parent who has the children on a said week is responsible for arranging childcare as necessary. Which might consist on annual leave, childminders or holidays clubs.

Why do you expect your DH to take leave but to take none yourself?

What does the bigger picture look like with your annual leave? What are you doing with the rest of it? If you're getting weeks of annual leave to take while the kids are at school to go on holidays with friends etc then I can see his point. If you end up using it all to look after the kids anyway then it's a moot point. You should both have equal amounts of "time off"/time to yourself through your annual leave.

It should be proportional. I assume you are able to work 2.5 days because he is working 5 days?

So he takes 2 days and you take 2 days.

You have them on your non work days, you use childcare for the remainder or split the remaining days. It's not fair if he has time take 4 days you none as annual leave

Thanks for your thoughts. I hadn't really considered annual leave use. My thoughts were more geared towards splitting the childcare evenly.

I think the upshot of this is that I should probably book a day off this week to balance things out a bit. They have a club next week so that should be easier to manage.

Next holidays I'm getting ahead of the childcare game!!