2nd time mum guilt

[Hazellee]

I have a 27mo and 3mo. I’m feeling so much guilt as I’m ebf and my youngest is with me all the time as she’s comforted a lot by being close to me

ive rarely gotten 1-2-1 time with my oldest and it makes me feel so sad. We get glimpses when she naps or sleeps but it’s rare as she’s very light and a cat napper

i feel like she’s always on me (of course, she’s a newborn) and worry what DS will think :( does he think why does mummy have her all the time

he loves her to bits he’s never been any sort of jealous or tried to hit her. He constantly says her name, gives her kisses / hugs and brings her teddies. so I’m so happy about this

sitb him being young someone reassure me please that he won’t remember this time where I’m literally split in half it feels ? And he won’t remember that he doesn’t have the same 1-2-1 time now like he used to :(

I have the same age gap as you and also ebf. 1 year in and I can give both my boys individual attention and they also have the closest bond. It does get easier x

@Rella357 I was hoping someone would say something like this! When I look at him now giving her kisses and hugging her my heart bursts and I’m reassured this is a good thing

i jsut get so guilty and worried our bond is affected now and that he’d resent me for this