Joint birthday party present etiquette

[Tacali]

My DC is invited to a nursery kids party tomorrow.
It is a joint party for them and their older sibling.
The whole nursery was invitedbut older sibling is in school. Would you buy a present for both?

It's not necessary, but it's a nice touch to buy a book or something for the older one. Or perhaps a game they can play together as a gift?

No you wouldn't be expected to. If you can afford to and want to it might be nice to get a small token for the sibling but theres no pressure. The joint parties I've been too had seperate places to put each of their presents.

I had this but with triplets, two of whom bullied DD and she despised! Token gifts!

No, not in this situation. It's clearly just a gift for the child in your child's class.

No, just for the Nursery child.

I could be wrong, but I am presuming from the way you've written it sounds like your DC doesn't really interact with the older child. If that's the case, then just a present for the younger one. If they is some way that you DC is special to the older one - maybe your DC plays round their house a lot and the older child likes playing with your child, or helps your child with his coat and stuff, then presents for both.

Do you know the older child e.g. you meet up with the mum for play dates and he’s there? If not then just buy for one in your DC’s class.