My sister got married a few years ago and gave birth to a girl. She and her husband live close by my parents.
I'm the little son. I moved abroad for a job opportunity. It makes sense for a young person to move abroad for a job opportunity to develop his career, discover the world etc.. that's the case for me. I'm also single.
My brother in law, on the other hand, turned out to be a selfish person. He is doing very well here in our country. He is a professor and has some side business that he is running. In this important phase of his daughter childhood, he decides to move abroad to Canada. It's not even about a job opportunity, he is there 'looking' for something, living with his married brother and sister ( each one in a different city ) and spending money in vain. He is jumping back and forth between different provinces, "looking" but as we know, he didn't find any job. He can't provide for a family there so my sister can't join him and as far as I know about her, she is not interested in a life abroad.
It's been a year like this. My sister is back to living with my parents who are turning old. We all love my little niece and we are taking care of her and part of us are happy that she is here at home, but we are all mad at the scum who left his daughter alone and not even for a job opportunity or a plan that is worth considering.
I'm back for some vacation and to work remotely and I do everything I can to help. My niece loves me so much that I sometimes juggle working with playing with her in the house. I buy her stuff. The poor girl loves us more than her absent father and she is not even excited by the news that he is calling on the phone or coming back in X days. I and my grandfather are playing the father job and my sister patience is limited as she screams at her every now and then but you can't blame her.
Again my problem is not that he is abroad. I would understand if it was for a clear plan for my sister to join ? Or if it's something temporary for a specific amount of months ? Or even if it's for a job ? We don't know anything.. we are kept in the dark and we are giving half baked answers from him and my sister is not exactly the type to open up. I'm not even that close to her. One thing is for sure. If he got a clear job, we would have known because why would he hide it ? All what he know is that he keeps applying and do some side jobs, like teachings... Is this a life you lead after you decided to settle and marry someone ? Is this someone I should understand or try to sympathize with, leaving my sister to come back to live with us like a widow or a divorced woman ?