Toddler tantrums for me most?

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DS is 25mo and I feel like sometimes it feels like tantrum after tantrum or like I’m walking on egg shells with him

his speech is improving! So that’s helping but I feel he’s a little behind on speech which must contribute to tantrums

however, he doesn’t really tantrum for my parents. And when we spoke to nursery they were like oh he doesn’t have tantrums really - said he has the odd little moment when like he doesn’t want to share a toy but all the kids do at this age etc

so he doesn’t really tantrum for the other people who care for him

why so much for me ? He does for DH but it’s more for me and I need to not but I am taking it personal :(

I read somewhere that kids have the most tantrums with the person they trust most. My dd at that age had plenty of tantrums at home but never ever at nursery. I think you just have to find some strategies that work for him and then wait it out a bit!

Any tips for strategies? This morning has been so tough :( I ended up crying

It genuinely is usually that you are there safest "space" to act out in. Which is tough, but kind of nice at the same time!

Give us some examples of tantrums and maybe we can help.

Well lots are based around food we think he’s testing boundaries as he’ll ask for more just to ask for more. we feed him a lot he’s got a good appetite and eats healthy! But sometimes he asks for more and if we let him have a mini tantrum (2-3mins) he walks away and forgets he asked for more food!

he is. A bit of a pain if he sees like a biscuit tin or box of chocolates he genuinely would eat the lot if we didn’t stop him

he can’t say all too much so before after a very long kick off I finally realised he didn’t like the socks I put on him (black and had stars on) as he wanted plain black socks on

we triednto do crafts and he got annoyed as I painted his hand to do a hand prints and he didn’t get that he couldn’t use the brush when I was painting his hand so wiped the paint on himself and had a melt down

I saw a mum of a toddler having a tantrum just sit down on the supermarket floor with him, she spoke really calm and gently, no awkwardness or embarrassment regarding other customers staring at her, and it did the trick, the tantrum was over in no time.
I used to get so stressed when mine had them and l think they picked up on it and it just made them worse.

I really am in the thick of tantrums at the moment. Ds is the same age. No issues with anyone else or nursery!
Ive accepted it. I let him fall the floor and do the tantrum. Took us about an hour to get
home the other day when it normally only takes 20 minutes!

Hugs. It'll be because they feel safe with you to test boundaries.

One thing that helps with my similar aged child is mild distraction, specifically - oh can you hear that noise? What can you hear? (It really helps if there's something to hear lol)

Good luck. It's bloody hard.

Thanks everyone it has been tough

i did ease up later on and we went on a walk to our high street to see buses, vans and cars (he loves doing this haha!)

I did notice he’s dribbling a lot, really runny nose, cough and very very loose nappies. So I’m starting to think the tantrums the last few days and these symptoms could be back molars

because today he hasn’t been saying what he wants which he usually does

Aw bless him, those back teeth are a killer.

A couple of things that have worked well for me:

• offer choices constantly for things you don't care about: do you want blue socks or black socks today YOUR CHOICE. Do you want the red plate or the blue plate today YOUR CHOICE. Etc etc. It gives them the sense that they have a lot of choice when really you decide the important stuff.

• give lots of warnings on transitions. So if it's dinner soon, give notice - it's dinner soon, when you hear the timer go off it's dinner time, it's dinner time now do you hear the timer do you want to turn it off or shall I...

• stick to a routine as much as possible, and tell them what's coming up. We are going to get dressed, then go to the park, then come home for snack. Over and over! Then when at the park, we are going home for snack after the park, and then to play with our blocks... never tell them more than two or three steps ahead, but do keep letting them know what's happening.

This too shall pass OP!