Best thing about having more than one kid….

[funkmonke]

Extra kudos of positives of kids with an age gap….

Watching them play together / hang out with each other

knowing they won’t ever be alone in life when I’m not here

knowing that they may have nieces and nephews if they don’t have children

they have one more person in life to help/ support / love them

Watching their utter delight when they see other. DS laughs with DD like he doesn’t with anyone else. I have siblings I adore so it’s lovely to know mine have each other. Gap is 4 years. How much of a gap are you considering?

They can play together and not always pester me.
When they get on they're like a mini team.
They ALWAYS stick up for one another especially when other kids are involved.
I love knowing they'll have each other when they're older.
I can pass on the older ones clothes to the younger one 🤣

Both boys. 3 year age gap.

I have a 14 year age gap between me and my half brother and we have always got on brilliantly. I love being a big sis.

Although what you think maybe a positive may also not happen. Me and DB are not close at all, never have been. I could be an only child really.

I have a 5 year gap between my boys - currently 7 and 12. My favourite part is when the eldest acts the caring, proud big brother. And when the youngest looks up to his big brother and wants to impress him or be like him. Of course it’s not always like that! But in the moments of them bonding it’s so lovely.

That’s lovely - I’m currently pregnant with a ten year age gap.

worrying a lot that it’s too big xx

The best bit is that you realise that your children are who they are despite, not because of you. My two sons have the same parents, have been brought up the same, but couldn't be more different from each other.

We have two DSs, 22 and 17.

DH and I have just brought DS1 (22) back from Uni today for the Easter break. We have spent this evening around the dining room table having a takeaway and they are batting off each other as DS2 is winding his brother up. It feels that it's back to normal in the house. 😂

Yes they wind each other up, but I know that they are always in contact with each other and talk quite often. We know that they would always look out for each other and that's what's great about them.

I have a 6 year age gap. They play really nicely and sometimes wind each other up. Just like all siblings. But the oldest one said to me this week:

‘mum there’s like a sibling code. I can moan about little sister, but if anyone else does, they’ll have me to answer to’

And bless it was genuine and sweet. and made me happy they will be there for each other. The little one (reception) fronted a year six boy who made her year six sister cry. And he was actually very kind to her and apologised etc. but I thought ‘wow’ you go girl!

Hope this doesn’t sound like they are bullies. I just mean I love that they support each other unquestionably.

I don't have any babies yet OP. But me and my sis are 10 years apart and we are so close, have a wonderful relationship, and we had sleepovers once a week when I moved out. She doesn't want as much to do with me now she's a cool 18 year old but she will come back I think 🤞

They just love each other so much.

DD always says DS is her favourite person. DS can’t speak properly yet ( he’s only a wee nipper) but he adores her too. He literally beams when dd comes in the room & follows her around. Dd is very protective of him and cuddles him constantly.

It’s a joy to witness.

I love that they have one another and I hope they always have each others back.

just over 3 years between them.

I am an only child - however, I was brought up very close to my cousins. We were more like siblings than cousins. There are 11 years between me and one of my cousins and we are the closest of us all. I’ve always felt so protective of her and it was a joy to grow up with her. We still talk every day even though now we are at opposite ends of the country.

My sister is 14 yo younger than me. I adored her!

Our oldeste are born 1997 & 2001. They adore our youngst born 2013. Same story.

My DB are 12 and 10 years older than me. I had a great childhood. I would say I hardly saw one of my db because he had moved out by the time I had proper memories (eg ~5+). However the db 10yrs older than me would play with me, help me build with Lego/knex. We fought a lot as well but I remember it fondly as play fighting.

I do also remember lots of times with it being just me and dm and sometimes feeling like an only child. What I mean is when I was 8-16yrs old Db was being an adult and finding his own way. So it would be just me and dm a lot of the time and I really enjoyed that time just the two of us. I have nieces and nephews now and I love that. I have a ds but he is much younger than his cousins.

We still spend Christmas, Easter, some holidays and occasions together as adults but not too much after that due to living quite far away. We all still get along which is nice.

I think the first reply nails it, in truth.

We've all been together today (3 adult dc) and I just love the way that, although there is much banter and sparking off each other, I also know how much they do for each other and the older two look out for the younger one.