Hi all,
Know every situation is different but was wondering if anyone had been in a similar experience.
Ds was born last month and is a joy. The pregnancy was not planned and his dad and I had split up a week before I found out (due to cheating on his side) but he seemed initially positive when I told him about the pregnancy. He changed very quickly to wanting me to terminate and that he wanted nothing to do with myself or ds. A few weeks later he called and claimed the woman he cheated on me with was pregnant and they were in a relationship and blocked me off everything. I saw the OW recently in the local supermarket and she didn’t have a bump at all so I think either he made it up or she is no longer pregnant.
I got on with my pregnancy myself and have not contacted him ( I did try to send an update regarding my due date/the gender during the pregnancy but as he had blocked me it wouldn’t send).
He’s aware ds has been born as I’ve noticed he has recently unblocked me on social media so will have seen photos of DS who looks strikingly like him.
My question is if any of you have dealt with an absent father/ex, did they ever return years later or show any interest in the child? I am very happy raising ds as a lone parent but of course if he did show interest in DS in the future then I would have to allow contact. Also what did you tell your children when they start asking questions about the absent parent?
Any advice appreciated :)