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Worried about app (Amigos) at sleepover

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GreenDancingKitten · 22/03/2024 23:18

My daughter is having a sleepover, mix of girls age 12/13. They’ve gravitated into two different rooms - and in one room (the group my daughter wasn’t with) I overheard what sounded like a video call with either a man or teen boy. I know it was a call and not just watching content as I heard them respond to a question about the wall behind them in the background. I thought it could be someone from school at first as they had video called some other friends earlier.

I asked the girls that weren’t involved if they knew what it was, they said they were using an app call Amigos. This seems to be a sort of dating/connecting app, and designed for mature use. I went in and the girls stopped the call - I asked if they were talking to strangers online and they said it was Tik tok videos (it definitely wasn’t). I sent them to join the others and watch a movie, and put away their phones.

I’m not sure now on the position with telling the parents - caught between wanting to let them know and causing a hassle as the friends mum who tells tales and don’t want it to them impact friendships. I think I have to share but not sure best way to approach it.

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FortofPud · 22/03/2024 23:28

I think I'd rather mention it - "just to let you know there was a moment when a few of the girls were on Amigos. I didnt mean to embarrass them by mentioning it but I wasn't comfortable with it without knowing other parents' feelings on it, so i did get them to put phones away and watch a movie instead."

Bunbun2277 · 23/03/2024 10:45

I would absolutely mention it. If that was my DC I’d want to know. The parents can then have any conversations they feel fit with their daughters around safety online etc.
I wouldn’t be comfortable not knowing that piece of information, especially if it went too far next time.

Evenstar · 23/03/2024 13:08

Please do tell the parents, someone I know only discovered her daughter had been involved in this kind of thing when indecent photos had been shared and the school involved the police as they had been circulating at school.

She also had to move her daughter to another school, it was dreadful for the girl and her family.

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