Negative thoughts now I have a baby?

[Erlouise]

Hey ladies
bit of a weird one ….
I keep getting these morbid thoughts now I’ve got DD who is 5 months.
I keep thinking what if something happened to me and she was left without me.
ive got a funny mole at the moment waiting to see Dr about it and I’m just thinking the worst and thinking my god what if I wasn’t here for her ….
honestly I can’t stop.
I don’t sit and cry about it or get myself all worked up, the thought just keeps popping up a lot since I’ve noticed this bloody mole.

do I just need to do a bit of bloody meditating to chill out ? Or is this just normal when you have a baby so young ….

Sounds like intrusive thoughts / anxiety
It's awful

Never a mistake to chat to a midwife / gp as with all the hormones health anxiety and stuff can spiral.

That said, I definitely think about this a lot and have for years & years.(not in a healthy or rational way.) I think it's because my partner is lovely but incompetent and you're just not living for yourself anymore. Try and breathe, stretch and know that focussing on it won't help anything. You can't see the future. Look after your self and your baby and if you continue to worry too much don't be afraid to ask for help .

Congratulations on your baby!

I was never scared of dying or becoming ill until I had my daughter and now I think about it a lot! I think it is quite normal and common, but if you're thinking about it all the time it may be worth talking to your GP.

I think it is very common to have this type of anxiety now you are a parent and I am sorry to say it never really went away for me until my DD left home for uni at 18 ! It did make me look after my health alot more though and go for regular blood, smear and other tests though, as well as eating well.

I'm exactly the same now! DD is 2 and it seems to be worse the older she gets. I know it's not related but I use to love true crime books but now I have DD I can't read them as they make me think if it was DD. I think as a parent it's probably normal but feels weird as it's never something you've had to worry about before.

Thanks so much for replying ladies
honestly it’s just come on mostly because of this mole … I do make such a conscious effort to go on daily walks and eat well because I want to be healthy for DD. I think it’s the unknown that’s scaring me at the moment.

definitrly if it spirals I will be contacting GP but for now I know it’s just because something has popped up that’s made me really aware of it.

DP is currently away from work and he always says a problem shared is a problem halved… haven’t been able to talk to him and I think I’ll feel better when he’s back and I can share this!…

but relating to what you said @Crowgirl my DP is the same. Absolutely wonderful in many many aspects of life, but completely useless with DD!

@Dolly567 - yes! Intrusive thoughts… seem to happen a lot to me before I had DD and I used to get quite anxious before I got pregnant too. Things seemed to ease when I got pregnant. Now I feel like I’ve reached a stage with DD where it’s just groundhog day - no one checks in like they used to etc etc so I think I just have more time to think!

Hopefully once I’ve been seen with this mole it’ll put my mind at rest. For now I think I’ll stick on some sort of positive thoughts podcast lol

@Gabby10 that’s how I feel I think … never really had to worry about anyone else in life and now I have this beautiful being depending on me I suddenly feel that my life is the most precious thing (other than DD of course!)