Boys vs Girls 🩵🩷

[funkmonke]

If you could only have two children, would you choose boys girls or one of each? And why?

The second time I was pregnany I hoped for another girl - the plan was to stop at 2, I already had a girl so I felt I knew what I was doing and could re-use the clothes so it would be cheaper. So I had a preference to have the same again. First time I really hadn't any preference at all. Just seemed like one of each would be maximum cost/difficulty. Turned out I was expecting 2 boys, so definitely not cheap!

Third pregnancy I was hoping for a girl because it would be sort of symmetrical an I knewDD wanted a sister. But it was only a whim really, not a big deal.

So I ended up with 2 of each in the end. Seems like the best of both worlds!

I have a DD and am expecting my second (too soon to know the sex). Until recently, I was adamant I wanted another DD, though of course I'd be happy either way as long as baby was healthy. Inexplicably, I've recently developed a yearning for a little boy. So, let's see what happens!

I have 2 DDs and I'm very happy with that. It's a stereotype but I've always observed the girls around me in the park and soft play to be calmer and less aggressive than boys, and parents of boys definitely seem to complain about behaviour more. So it's just an easier job. And easier and cheaper to have 2 of the same for hand me downs, taking to the same kind of activity, toys etc. Mosy families I've know with 1 of each, the dcs stop playing together and don't do the same sports by late primary age.

Boys. Probably because I have three of them and that's my comfort zone. I've never had the desperate urge to have a daughter that I read about on here, I was delighted to have sons.

Well I only have 1 but if I must have 2 then I guess it has to be two boys! No idea why really as I know my next comment is sexiest, but I just thought if he was a stereotypical boy and into sports / trains / dinosaurs etc, both my partner and I would relate to him much easier than we would a stereotypical girl

I struggled until I knew I was having a girl. It wasn't that she was a girl but I found it easier to picture knowing girl/boy

What I love about my daughter is she isn't super girly loving rough and tumble but can also be soft and cuddly. I think I would struggle with a daughter that was overly girly or a boy that was only overly macho but I think these are unusual and fewer and far between. Any little people with rounded personalities are good in my book.

My mil is quite open that when she only wanted boys when pregnant. She has also said she was unsure what it would be like having a granddaughter as she had only experienced boys. She loves our daughter and she gets to do the gentle stuff but also my daughter is fearless and goes for things in a typical "boy" way

Tough to imagine a reality other than the one I have, so I've voted for one of each.

But when I just had one I wanted #2 to be the same again, I couldn't imagine what it would be like to have anything differently to what I already have. Which is hilarious because I know many people with 2 of the same gender when the kids couldn't be less alike, so doesn't seem to matter what you have, it's the personalities which count.

Pre kids I think I would have said two girls though I am now a proud mum of a three year old DS and have his baby brother currently snoozing on me - wouldn't change a thing.