Hi guys,
sorry this isn’t directly baby related but I need someone to talk to before I explode.
I don’t know if I should keep my cats anymore, I can’t handle them. But idk if that’s true or if it’s postpartum rage?
I have three beautiful little cats who I love dearly but for their sake, I don’t know if I should keep them.
I’ve adopted them individually, my oldest is 3, second oldest 2 and youngest is 2 in sept. When I first had them, individually and together, me & my partner played with them for HOURS. We were students so had the time to but now our lifestyle has changed. I unexpectedly got pregnant and didn’t know how much of my time would be consumed. My baby isn’t a big sleeper, colic is a nightmare, I’m constantly running around after this baby and trying to juggle the house work. My partners now in a full time position that is physically and mentally ruining him, let alone the late nights with bubba. We’re just so consumed they now only get a 30 minute play. It’s not enough for them.
They’re now ruining my house.
I’ve got them toys, they have a massive bag full they alway go through, electric ones for when we’re busy. 3 cat trees, numerous houses for them, bird feeds outside each window. We’ve done everything we can. But instead they’re ripping up my carpet, I’m renting so this is a huge issue, my £100 curtains (patio doors hence the price)? They are RUINED. They’re climbing the wooden doors to the point chunks are coming out. The sealant in windows ruined. When babies eating they’re trying to get the bottle off us. Popped my babies tummy time water mag whilst he was on it. They rip the blanket off him when he’s sleeping. I’ve had a to buy a new sofa due to them ruining the last and now this is their scratching ground. It’s getting beyond. I buy the super expensive food, like over £200 a month! And they are still scrounging for more straight after being fed.
I feel like the worst pet parent right now but I’m at an all time low. My landlords said they need to stop or they need to leave. I’ve got a huge debt of money I owe him for fixtures that I can’t afford.
My hearts broken, I feel like I’ve failed them. I can’t let them out because we’re by a super busy road but they need more. My house is not enough. I feel like it’s not fair to keep them but I also feel like it’s not fair to regime them.
Please is anyone knows how I can stop this let me know. I’ve tried calming sprays, I feel like I have nothing left. At this point I’m considering hiring a pet sitter just to play with them but I can’t really afford that.
am I valid for questioning keeping them or is this postpartum rage? I am feeling very angry towards them to the point where I just want to open the door and let them go. My partners getting the same. I feel like the worst person saying this, but we’re starting to become happier when they’re not in the same room as us. It’s truly upsetting because we do love them, we’re just not liking them anymore.