Please share pros of having children with a ten year age gap between them…

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Please share pros of ten year age gap.

Currently pregnant with no. 2 and panicking about it!

Please also share pros of having multiples at all…

Thank you so much xxx

Hey! It's the exact gap of my DS and DD. He absolutely worships her and her him, however I can see him getting a bit frustrated when people give more attention to the little one, sometimes he can act quiet childish but IMO that's his way of getting the same attention if that makes sense?
In every aspect it's great because he's old enough to entertain himself, old enough to watch her quickly while I run up to the toilet , put away washing etc, but in other ways it's a curse because I can see how much more of a connection they would have had if I had DD sooner, but no regrets at having a second at all she made our little family whole 🥰

DSDs 13 and 11 love their 2.5 year old brother sooooo much. They can play with him and help to entertain him. They teach him things and feel grown up with the responsibilities.

And with an age gap so large, by the time your baby is old enough so enjoy activities - soft play, children's farm or whatever, your eldest will likely be enjoying activities with friends or doing things that don't need adult supervision, so you won't have that struggle of finding activities that are suitable for all children, which happens with smaller age gaps of say 3-6 years.

Enjoy it OP, it won't be bad 😀

My nieces have this gap, it was nice for both of them as they had the full attention of both parents. The age gap seemed massive when one was 18 and her sister 10.
Now they both have dc, they are the best of friends and the difference doesn't exist.

There is a 10 year age gap between me and my sister. Growing up it was mostly like being an only child. I'm sure she played with me when I was very young (hazy memories of this!) but once she was a teenager she was off living her own life and had moved out by the time I was 10.

I love my sister very much but we have always been at completely different life stages.

Having a baby and a 10 year old was great. 10 year old was old enough to be fairly independent and to help a bit (listening out while I had a shower, cuddling the baby while I fetched wipes etc) also old enough to not have a very early bedtime so it was easy enough to find time for them as well.

We had a couple of tricky years where one hit puberty and one hit toddler. This was exaggerated by having number 4 and then covid and lockdowns. I think with just two it would have been easier!

From 15 and 5 it got easier again and at 18 and 8 it’s wonderful!

I agree with @ChampagneGold my db is 10 years older than me and I grew up as an only child. We get on well now (me 40s, him 50s) but I think that's more to do with us having children at roughly the same time.

Have 8 with between a less than 2 year and over 11 year gaps between our children, lots of pros and cons to all different gaps. The 11 year gap was nice, have me chance to get my life back, establish my career, get fit etc plus lots of quality time with older kids as they grew up, be in a good relationship, financially stable etc. Then go into parenting again with experience and time that have reflected on the kids earlier years.
11 year old very happy and excited about baby, able to rest during pregnancy and in newborn phase as if only child. Was harder with teens at same as having a baby but 11 year old young enough to still be on easier stage of childhood and embrace the whole thing. Older kids now grown up and have nice relationship with younger ones but is very different to the relationship the younger and older children have with each other. As for practicalities, some whole family activities are realistic and probably depends on the temperament of the new baby/toddler but found it was easier to organise childcare so had separate periods of time to spend with the older and younger set else would of ended up a bit frustrating all round. Having another sibling for younger one helped too as frustrating for them that older ones tend to only want to spend time with them in small doses!