9year old having difficultly sleeping

[FlippingFishes24]

Our 9yr old has never been a good sleeper. And never spend a night away from us both.
Our child goes through peaks and troughs of good and bad sleep. Currently they won't fall asleep and stay asleep without one of us... mainly me...being with them. We know it will settle down again, but hubby is inisistent that they just need to grow up and talks constantly about bed time which then makes our child nervous and then is constantly up and down every 10mins unless we stay with them. He's also adamant that our bedrooms door shut and then he can't see us so will sleep but that doesn't work... We have also tried all different things tough love and leaving but none worked.. I know its not a long term solution laying with them every night but they are not going to do it when there a teenager and as we're all in need of a good sleep as up early it's best out of a bad situation.
What's people's thought?

I’ve been sitting with DD for the last 4 years to fall asleep (she’s 8 and slept great until me and her Dad broke up.) It’s frustrating at times, but after many failed weeks at leaving her to fall asleep alone which like you said, resulted in being up and down the stairs all night, I’ve just learned to deal with it. It won’t be forever.

How do you feel about it? It sounds like it’s just DH who has the issue with it.

I know its not a great situation but it doesn't bother me that much tbh, as i know it wont be forever. And I'm the one that's lying there every night.
Hubby states I'm in the wrong for doing it and says people will 'frown upon it' and constantly moans about it which then i think doesn't help DS.

Thank you for this.