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Potty training frustration

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mummyofalittleprince · 16/03/2024 17:30

Hey! I’m currently really frustrated and really need some advice. I’m potty training my soon to be 3 year old son. The way it started was on Tuesday we removed the nappies and put him in pull ups whilst still taking him to the toilet every 30 minutes to introduce the toilet. He doesn’t mind going at all and wees every time I take him. The purpose of the pull ups was to minimise accidents in our households and we were told majority would happen the first few days. Then on Thursday we removed the pull ups completely and put on the training pants (bambino) and again take him to toilet every 30-45 minutes. The issue is that he is still having loads of accidents in his training pants, and he knows its wrong because he’d hide it or then say no to going to the loo because he knows i will find out that he’s done it in his pants. I dont shout at him or anything but I say something like thats not nice, you’re a big boy we need to do it in the toilet. I’m frustrated because i’ve been at home for almost a whole week now and it seems like nothing is moving forward and I just don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. How long until he stops doing it in his pants and when can I start trusting that he knows when he needs to go? I’m fed up with doing nothing other than stay at home for a whole week and take him to the loo every 40 minutes and then find multiple accidents on the way!

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Covetthee · 16/03/2024 17:40

i would completely get rid of the pants, you’re potty training and accidents are bound to happen… the little guy doesnt know the difference between pants and nappies.

i would just leave him undressed from waist down for a week and have a potty near by and encourage him to use it every 30 mins or so, or after a drink etc.

for going out always take a travel potty with you, don’t be tempted to use pants

some kids catch on quickly and others not as much, you just have to be consistent. My first had many regressions ( although tbf we started her too young i think) my 2nd did as above and within a week she was fine think we had 2 accidents and not a big one, she managed to then hold her wee and go to the potty to finish, been nearly 3 months and no regressions ( so far 🤞🏽)

good luck

NewmummyJ · 16/03/2024 17:40

Put him in actual pants so he gets better feedback from feeling wet. I wouldn't stay home, just take some spare pants and trousers out with you. I took my son out the same say we started training him, but then he has to go out everyday otherwise his behaviour deteriorates.

Akj29 · 16/03/2024 17:48

Hey! We've been potty training too. The first couple of days we let DS be naked and kept reminding him to use the potty or toilet. Then we had him just in leggings. He had a few accidents in the leggings when he was really absorbed in an activity like playdoh at the table. He's in underpants now and hasn't had any accidents. I think feeling wet is part of the learning process?

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TinyTeachr · 16/03/2024 18:12

Bare bottoms or actual pants. Pull ups only for when it would be a real problem a.a. in the car (and even then it's better to put on the outsode of trousers).the feelings help them learn how to stop and wait.

Some take a long time..... my eldest cracked it incredibly quickly. My twins.... it's been a year. They have always been improving but painfully slowly. They are fine as long as you take them every 2 hours or so. But only oneof them will instigate and not reliably at that.

mummyofalittleprince · 16/03/2024 18:35

He does know when he’s done it because when I ask him if he’s weed in his trousers he says yes. Im not so sure if the problem is that he “doesnt know” or if its more of a “i’m lazy and don’t get in trouble anyway” kind if situation…

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NewmummyJ · 16/03/2024 18:50

He may know once he's done it, but having quicker feedback i.e. feeling wet immediately will help him put the signals together quicker hopefully! My son's accidents towards the end were a few drops of wee in his pants which triggered him to rush to the toilet and do the rest there!

lifehappens12 · 16/03/2024 21:39

Potty in a couple of rooms and naked waist down for the first 4!days and we mostly stayed home. That is what worked for us.

When he did go out trousers no underwear.

The book we read is all about training the mind to forget the feel of nappies which is what pants feel like.

I didn't train my son till after 3 aswell and there were plenty of accidents. After a while you will recognise the need a wee dance and be sending them off to the toilet

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