Toddler party RSVPs

[Jurassicpark1234]

We have organised a birthday party for my child but I sent the invites a bit too early (6 weeks?) - my mistake. I’ve not done this before and I’m a shift worker so personally prefer to know in advance and assumed others also have plans! The nursery is medium sized but most of the parents don’t know each other because of the varied times. The key worker gave us a list of kids who my child plays with most often and I gave her the invites which also had the RSVP date on. Currently only 7 of the parents have RSVPed - do I ask the key worker to gently remind the others or just leave it? We are paying per child (£35 per child - not cheap!) so if we haven’t paid for entry, food etc there will be an issue on the day. What do I do? Thanks!

Yes this is the most annoying part of parties! Why people don’t rsvp baffles me, but it’s not just you, happens to every one!

Do you have any phone numbers for the other parents? If not I’d try and catch them on the nursery run and ask if they’re coming.

If you go at different times then yes just ask the key worker to politely mention - I’m sure plenty will tell you that it’s not in their job description, but as long as they don’t mind I don’t see any harm.

If anyone turns up on the day wanting to come in you’ll have to either suck it up and see if you can pay on the day, or turn them away and hopefully it teaches them to rsvp in the future.

In my experience with toddler parties, there’s little point in going to a venue that charges per head. I always found that a third of those who had RSVPd ‘yes‘ didn’t turn up.

Six weeks is definitely a bit much. If parents don’t know each other or your child, they won’t plan their weekend around the party; the party will be attended if they make no other plans.

6 weeks is normal where I am. I would write some reminder notes and ask the key worker to pop them in the kids bag.

Ah thanks! Yes it’s annoying when people don’t RSVP but I suppose that’s normal now. Unfortunately we can’t host a large number of kids in our house so soft play was the only option. I will ask his key worker to mention it to the other parents. We see the same parents at drop off and pickup and they have RSVPed!