Hi, my little boy is almost one he is and always has been a horrendous sleeper. He wakes around 6 times throughout the night, most times he isn’t actually awake just whinging in his sleep - but it wakes me up lol. We co - sleep and I am happy to keep it this way.
He stays with me for 6 nights then goes to his dads for two nights, where he also co sleeps - the two overnights started at the end of January. His dad has missed quite a few overnights due to nights out or illness. When he returns it probably takes 2-3 days for our son to get back to his normal self, that in itself is super hard for me as I work from home night shift and don’t have any help with childcare.
His dad has told me that his sleep there is even worse than usual, waking every 10-20 minutes, 40 minutes on a good night and he has never slept longer than an hour without waking.
He isn’t in any pain or discomfort as far as I am aware we have ruled out colic and all the rest.
I would never in a million years ever ever withhold my baby from his dad but I am starting to think he is maybe too little for this kind of routine and to maybe try overnights with his dad at a later time , perhaps when he is 18 months. I know there can be a 12 month regression. His dad is also really struggling with the lack of sleep, and I am scared that we aren’t doing what is in our babies best interest. There is a lot going on in his little brain and I just don’t want to put anymore pressure on him, as he is still so little.
Should we go back to overnights at mines only, or should I persevere?
His dads house is a lot different from mine, here its more calm and quiet and busier at his dads, so there is quite a big change in his environment.
Ultimately it’s about doing what’s right for our son just now, as he is still only a baby, as he gets older we would obviously be more stricter with sticking to the routine as it’s really important that he has a great relationship with us both.
Advice please?