Advice on my partners co parenting with his ex and specifically court order for child access

[Littleloss]

I’m trying to get some info on my partner because I’m starting to get concerned around behaviour towards me and if this is something that was in his previous marriage. Basically he has a child and he had to go to court for access. The court order says hand over at each others houses, unless the mother does not feel safe in which case hand over is in a public defined place. Is the standard wording in a court order (UK), or is there a reason this would be specifically added? His ex has made some claims against him in the past, but nothing was proven. Thanks!

Not usual as far as I understand but just because things aren't proven doesn't mean that they didn't happen.

My job would involve court work around contact orders etc and I would say it's likely there has been some accusation at the least from mum against your partner if this has been included specifically in the wording. The fact he has had to seek contact through court doesn't really indicate anything. I am more worried you are feeling concerned with how he is behaving towards you, please speak to someone about this in your real life and get support
Things can escalate quickly. Do you have children? Please be mindful who you are having around your children and if you are concerned you can ask him if he would be willing to have a police check

Thank you for that. I know she made some accusations against him. But he framed it as bitter crazy ex wife (nothing was proven). No I do not have children, so it’s ok on that front. Yes I don’t know, he’s not abusive physically or even really verbally, but I see signs of him maybe being controlling or early stages of it “if you really loved me you’d want to move where I want” etc. I have asked under Clare’s law, but not seen anything yet. That information is useful thank you