To bring this up or not?

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Whilst leaving school this evening, I overheard the Grandparent of my 6y/o daughter's friend say "Sometimes I think name would be better off finding a new friend."

I was a bit stunned, as I think they have a lovely friendship. If I was being totally honest, I do think my daughter can get a bit overexcited and is sometimes a bit cheeky - but not overly so, and she's kind, generally well behaved, and never causes trouble.

I've been wondering what to do about this. Part of me feels like I should have said something there and then, but it didn't feel right and I didn't want an elderly person to feel confronted. But I thought perhaps I might speak to the Mum about the comment, so I can understand why it might have been made. Maybe there's something I don't know? Or should I just ignore it?

silly comment
don’t dignify it with any response

are you and the mother friends?

hang on

how you know it was about your daughter?

I wouldn't say anything, as it was a grandparent they probably only see a limited amount, so may have seen your dd being overexcited or heard her being cheeky a couple of times, but not seen the majority of the times where she's being kind or whatever.

If the parent said it I would try and sort out why though.

@FunnyFinch I know because my daughter and her friend ran through the playground together and it was a direct comment in a conversation: "Where's child name, with 'DD'? Sometimes I think..."

Her Mum and I are friends, and we've helped each other out with drop off/pick up occasionally. The girls always have playdates and swap notes and pictures etc.

That's why I was a bit stunned, I didn't think there were any issues, but now I'm worried there might be... I'm good at over thinking though, so it's good to hear other's opinions!

well consensus is… leave it 🤷

and it was a direct comment in a conversation: "Where's child name, with 'DD'? Sometimes I think...

this doesn’t make sense

ah ok got it.

Do they know you are the mother?

I think someone said:
’where is child A? Oh with child B’
Grandparent said:
‘Sometimes I think child A would be better off finding a new friend’

Took me a few reads to get it so could be wrong!

If I am friendly with the mother would be tempted to say how do u think the girls are getting on? If she says great then good, if she asks why then tell her and say u are worried u have missed something.