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Scared of what's to come

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Ebsse971724 · 13/03/2024 21:00

I'm due to have my 2nd baby in June. I have a 6 year old daughter and sometimes, the thought of being a single mum to 2 kids is just so bloody terrifying!
I don't think it would be much less terrifying if either of the dads where actually involved but then I haven't ever known any different as my daughters dad left when I was still pregnant and hasn't been around since. I don't know if its the thought of doing it alone that scares me or just the thought of doing it at all!

I get so stressed some times. I struggle to keep up with the housework, I get frustrated when helping my daughter with her homework and honestly, with most things at home get me a little down and then when I think about how much harder everything will be with a baby, it makes me wish for a second that I just got an abortion right at the start... and then I hate myself for thinking that, because I cannot wait to meet my son! To watch him grow up and see how amazing my daughter will be with him! and then I beat myself up for even thinking such a thing and how I'm a failure for allowing my house to be such a mess, for getting stressed out over bloody homework suited for a 6 year old and have myself believing I'm a god awful excuse for a mother and maybe they'd both be better off without me.

I don't feel like this often enough to get professional help. I wouldn't say I'm depressed, just hormonal and exhausted and in desperate need of a holiday, wine and cuddle but god when I feel like this, it feels like it'll never end and ill never be happy again. even though I know full well, tomorrow ill wake up and be fine.

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asislife · 13/03/2024 21:23

Hey, just stumbled across your post, first off congratulations. I’m due with my first in June and similar to you I’ll be doing it on my own as the dad has decided to check out but I can’t imagine doing it with two.

I just wanted to say although it’s completely different given I’m not a mum yet so I have no clue what it feels like for you, reading your message I completely understand your fear and all the feelings you described as I’m right in the thick of it too. Please give yourself grace, you deserve it and you can only do the best you can. You’ve done it once before and you can only take it one day at a time. You were meant to be their mum and I’d like to believe no situation is perfect but that’s okay, keep going, it won’t always be and feel like this. I wish I could uplift you more but just believe you will get through it and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. I’m sending you all the best wishes and a safe&healthy delivery.

Also, reading your post definitely made me feel less insane and alone If it’s worth anything..

Ebsse971724 · 13/03/2024 21:50

With my daughter, it has always been honestly perfect, I love our relationship, even if she does drive me batty sometimes! I hope you have the same experience because it truly is the best thing ever! I know I will be fine, it's terrifying but it'll be just as rewarding and lovely as it was with my daughter. I just get in a bit of gloomy place sometimes! 😪

I wish you a safe and speedy delivery too! 🙏 God bless you and your baby 💙🩷

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asislife · 13/03/2024 22:29

Same to you and both your little ones ❤️ that brings me peace, I really pray I get that too as I’m having a girl and not having her dads support scares me so thank you for sharing that..I feel like people really can discourage you. But anyway stay strong, I completely get it it’s a whiplash of emotion at times but we’ll both get past it. I’m claiming it for us both 😁 x

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