Is this normal for MIL and SIL

[Ellbellx]

Hello,

I just need to know if i'm going crazy or not...
Just to start off with i live with my partner and his parents and sister.

So the first couple of weeks after giving birth i strictly said no dummy and SIL would hold a dummy in my DD mouth until she sucked on it. This has now been mentioned and seen by my partner so it doesn't happen anymore now thankfully.

However, SIL will follow me everywhere, even if i go upstairs to change DDs nappy, she will follow and just stand there! Then as soon as i'm done take her off me and will go into another room.

Sometimes she will take her off me and the. say things like "shall we go downstairs" & "shall we go and say hello to so and so" like NO i make them decisions?? and stop taking her off me !!!!

Also, MIL was fine at first, but recently whenever DD cries she will take her off me, it makes me feel terrible.

When we move out i'm worried if my DD doesn't settle to me because she's too used to my MIL settling her all the time!

It's really getting me down.

Is this normal or am i just a over thinker after childbirth?

This sounds very overbearing. It's so tough living in someone else's house, but at the end of the day you're the mother. You should feel at liberty to say what works and doesn't work for your baby. If you don't want someone taking them you should be saying so and they should respect it

Don’t worry. Babies don’t even notice anyone except mum (and possibly dad if he’s involved and engaged). I say this as someone who comes from an extended family - we used to look forward to the moments when the other family members were out. And after a certain age (3 for most of us) actively made decisions to spend less time with them

When you go upstairs close the door behind you. If she says tries to pick up baby say not just now and pick her up yourself, when MIL tries to take her say No thanks and walk away if you can.

They sound like absolute W@NK£RS!!!! They should trust you as a mother and not try and step on your toes. Don't worry about DD feeling settled with you. Remember, you are their mum and they will love you unconditionally!

Sending love and support <3

No, it's not normal. Stop handing your baby over to them, keep her with you. And keep saving to move out!

Oh i've tried, then they knock the door and come in, SIL is the worst, is DD is awake when she enters the room she will sit in the room waiting for a moment to grab her off me, but i kind of turn her away now and it's starting to help as it's shutting her off in a way.

We have the house, it's being renovated which is annoying me even more. I just want to bring my baby up my way and i can't while i'm here. I hate going downstairs and socialising when we have tea, i just wish i could stay in the bedroom all day.

Thank you <3 I just hope she doesn't think someone else is her mom because i hardly hold her to be honest because whenever she is awake someone grabs her or takes her off me.

That must be so hard, especially considering you live with them. That would drive me up the walls! I'd be tempted to lock myself in a room with her tbh 😂but, I wouldn't suggest that as a good parenting method.

I say just try and move out of there soon as. Your baby knows your her mum - I'm sure of it. X

Just keep at it, push them away each time and they will eventually get the idea.

Then move out ASAP and don’t give them a key! 😀