Background - me and the ex have successfully co-parented our children (11&8) for the last 4 years, without any hiccups, we’ve always been accommodating with any changes in routines and we both turn up to the events (where work allows). They have always been happy going between both houses, the youngest, given the choice would prefer to stay here most of the time, but we generally do 50/50 and he’s happy with it (although does grumble a little when it’s time to go to dads), the oldest was more diplomatic and likes the equal time between both houses. Up until now- they have a new baby at their dads and I was ok with it until this week. My son made a Mother’s Day card at school and gave it to my ex’s partner, which honestly broke my heart cause their dad gets her a card/ things from them already, then he told me he was excited to go back to his dad’s because his baby brother is there. My oldest has gone from saying how much she loves it being “just us three” and telling me she didn’t want me to find a boyfriend, to telling me I should “find a man” so I could have another baby (2 and done thanks- at least she’s funny with it). The ex’s decision making has yet again shifted the dynamics of my entire life and I’m not coping with it as well as I thought. The kids would never know it but I’m feeling really rejected and like they don’t want to be with me at the minute- which is something I’ve never felt before, especially cause I’ve always been the primary parent, I’m the one they come to when they have problems, they will talk to me about anything and everything and feel safe to do so…
Has anyone else been through a similar situation that can reassure me that things will re-balance. Cause honestly, I was so happy with things as they were. I’m feeling a bit lost now.
PS. I know I am being completely unreasonable and as mentioned, the kids will never know I feel this way.