3 month old not settling for sleep

[YourShyTurtle]

Having an awful time with our son, especially at bed time. He has just turned 3 months. he is fighting all naps, and at bedtime is inconsolable when either me or my husband is trying to rock him over to sleep. Tonight he cried for 50 minutes before I eventually had to latch him on to go over - he was literally on 30 seconds then asleep. He has had a firm routine for bed since birth of nappy, sleep sack, read and feed at the same time, song and over to sleep. Helping him over to sleep would have been rocking him over and he would fuss for 10-15 minutes at most then over. Once he is asleep he is having false start now every night and can be up 3-4 times before going into his nights sleep. Once he is there he will sleep 9 hours, it’s just getting there is such a battle!

during the day I do not feed him to aleep, only on the odd occasion when he is overrides and very hard to settle. At night I have been trying to make his last feed about 20-30 minutes before he is put into bed.

not sure if he’s hitting a sleep regression, or if I am just all off on his routine. I am trying to follow wake windows, and go off sleep cues when putting him down. Also working on some independent sleep with his morning nap.

I just feel at a bit of a loose end.

I work in a baby room at a day nursery and we see this a lot of the time. There is a sleep regression at around 3 months, 9 months and 12 months so it could be the cause. I suggest playing white noise, making sure the room is completely dark and stroking either his head or face also.

please note that he is still only little and is experiencing growth spurts so he might be waking up hungry? X

Thank you for this 😘 I have been checking to see if he is hungry but when I offer him to nurse he will latch on and go straight to sleep. He’s very good about knowing when he’s had enough to eat. With that last feed I am offering him multiple times to make sure he’s well topped up 😂

I think your expectations are too high. It's completely normal for them to struggle to get to sleep and napping becomes difficult, he's changing and becoming more alert and aware. If he's doing 9 hours at night I'd take that as a win and just accept that this period is going to be tricky. He's only three months old, if feeding to sleep works why not just do that? Routines are not set for life.