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I am an unwanted mother

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Unwantedmother · 10/03/2024 12:30

I have a twelve years old son. Till 2020, I never received any mother’s day gift, not even a card on mother’s day except that was made in the nursery or school. My husband used to work in a superstore, so no reason of not knowing or forgetting. Every time it used to break my heart and my son used to get very sad and embarrassed that he could not get anything.

I think in 2019, my son got me a card because my husband found some old art paper in the cupboard. It was almost ripped and that's how my card was. Later they went to the local shop to get me some flowers. One of our friend asked my son what did he get me and he was so surprised to hear about flower only that even my husband felt something needed to be done. It felt like nothing was better than that ripped paper card and some flowers that was not given by heart.

For last three years, I got a card and something very cheap store brought thing like pillow cases. Last year my son asked my sister to buy me something so I got a mug.

This year my husband asked me if we can go for something exciting next weekend and as he hasn’t done something exciting for some time. I said yes and accepted it as a mother’e day in my mind.

But today, being the shameless I am, I was expecting something. I knew there will be nothing but still somehow I was hoping. There is a card and that's it. Don’t I deserve anything on Mother’s day? I may not win the best mother award but I am not the worse either. Why is like that? Don’t I receive a little recognition? Not something expensive but something? I feel like crying loud. But crying in silent while typing this.

  1. For the first time ever he took us to a restaurant to celebrate women’s day. So may be he is thinking that's enough.

  2. I work full time and celebrate father’s day nicely.

May be I am just over expecting. May be I haven’t done something good to be recognized. I have learnt to accept things. May be next year it will not be as difficult.

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misssunshine4040 · 10/03/2024 12:33

Have you communicated how much it means to you?
You shouldn't have let your son feel embarrassed and sad he couldn't buy you gifts and let him "earn" some money so he could get you a gift.
Your husband sounds terrible.

TinyTeachr · 10/03/2024 14:57

Talk to your husband. Some people care about presents more than others. My mum never really wanted anything other than a card and breakfast in bed. Tell him what your ideal mother's day next year would look like.

There's nothing wrong with a card made at school. I loved the ones my children gave me thisyear. It feels more personal than a store bought card.

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