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Nanny is ruled by what our toddler wants

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arine · 07/03/2024 14:13

Whenever I ask my nanny to enforce some boundaries with my toddler (eg. Eat lunch then go for a nap as opposed to skip lunch, skip nap and just play / put a hat on when it's freezing cold outside / come back from the playground at a certain time for lunch and nap), she often doesn't do it and responds with "I suggested it but your daughter didn't want to". In the rare case that she does enforce some boundaries it's "mummy said you need to leave the playground now" as opposed to just "it's time to go home" or "mummy said you need to wear a hat" as opposed to "it's cold outside, you need to be wearing a hat". So instead of presenting a united front Mummy is always bad cop.

I've spoken to her about it and her reasoning is always "I just don't want to upset her". Essentially there are no rules when my daughter is with her nanny. What more can I do?

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ALLthecheeses · 07/03/2024 14:14

This is the third post you have made about this today.

If you’re not happy with your nanny get rid of her.

MyLemonBee · 07/03/2024 14:24

Time for a new nanny I think. We've had a few over the years and the best relationships are where you are on the same page. Our nanny I know in 99.99% of scenarios would make the same choices I would, ie: hat is a firm boundary, no hat, no leave the house, but other things to let slide.

Moobz · 07/03/2024 14:38

Wow just sack her if she's making you this unhappy for 3 posts

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TheFancyPoet · 07/03/2024 14:41

May be your child does not know how to listen to her and put up massive fights

Smartiepants79 · 07/03/2024 14:42

Get a new nanny.
Children need boundaries.

AegonT · 07/03/2024 14:43

Get a new nanny. This is going to make your daughter behave poorly with you if she always gets her way with the nanny. The nanny doesn't have to live with tge consequences of her permissive nannying style.

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