What will your kids never forgive YOU for?

[MrsSnape]

Inspired by the "bad mum" thread....

I got thinking about my own kids and how I parent them and I wonder how they would answer that thread in 20 years time?

So if you could guess at their answers, what would they be?

I'd take a guess with:

"For losing her temper over stupid stuff like me not tying my shoe laces"

"For promising holidays to Florida and never actually taking us"

"For not allowing friends over because she 'got stressed' when people were in the house"

"For telling my teacher that I'd destroyed my homework on purpose resulting in me losing my play times for a week"

This is quite insightful... lol

I don't regret the last one though.

Good idea MrsSnape.

For not painting and doing craft type activities with me often enough because she cant bear the mess. She did a lot of cooking with us because SHE enjoyed it.

For forcing me to have my hair cut even though I was scared because we had school photos coming up.

For making us have a "daily outing" wind, rain or shine because she thought we needed fresh air no matter what the weather.

For not taking me to enough toddler groups because she finds it difficult to meet new people.

For getting VERY irritated and shouty when we didnt eat her healthy home made meals.

TBH when I compare this with how my Mum treated me I think my kids have a heavenly childhood but its all relative isnt it?

Well I dont know about the future but I think these are his curretn reasons:

For putting me in the bath because I bloody hate water!

For keep putting vegetables on my plate when shes knows I don't like them.

For keep giving me yuk food when she knows I like chips.

For not letting me watch my DVD on repeat all day long.

My Ds is only 2.11 so Im sure there are lots more to come.

the food

Singing in public for no apparent reason.

I used to go on the slide when I took the kids to the park and I still would if I was well enough. [unrepentant]

I used to like to wiggle a bit and sing along to the music they play in Tesco. People stared but they're just boring.

ds1 also might have something to say about the pics I took of him in a pink frilly frock and an orange headband when he was a baby. I was bored.

according to my mum
not allowing him to have a chocolate santa or an easter egg this year
he will be one at the end of next month!

Stealth he will hate you! (whispers seriously)Forever

the clothing. the silly hats.

poor ds.

Showing everyone this picture of him wearing my knickers
I also have a front on view to be saved for his gf's in the future

Probably for not having a TV.

For not letting me have a dvd player till I was 10

For never letting me have a playstation, nintendo, etc etc

This is good and thought provoking. My DS is 9 months today and I don't think I've been that bad so far. Most of mine would be along the lines of Hecate's public singing and I'm definitely guilty of dancing to music in shops. In fact I find having DS in the sling is good camouflage for what otherwise looks a little mad ! Onlookers hopefully think I'm soothing him

Probably also for looking like a scruff and dressing in army fatigues instead of girls' clothes and make up etc.

And swearing loudly.

And giving him a really long odd name.

And laughing at his poo.

Oh dear.....

I guess he could also rebel against my attachment parenting style and say :

Making me sleep with her and my dad instead of giving me my own cot.

Making me ride in a sling instead of a lovely big pushchair.

Making me breastfeed exclusively until 7 months before she gave me solids even though the Health Visitor told her to at 5 months

Who knows who he'll grow up to be ? I hope he'll always see the good intentions behind my craziness though.

Good thread!!

my top three gripes at my mum from my childhood are:

1. For dressing like a loon (think wellies hair not brushed) and showing up at every school disco / party the SECOND it was supposed to be finished and standing at the back, arms folded, refusing to talk to anyone else...

1. For dressing ME like a loon for above parties / discos. And for cutting my hair herself. Wonky!

1. For not letting me have friends round to play because she didn't really like them / their parents and then getting stressed when I wanted to go to their houses...

I think the top three gripes my step daughters would have about me:

1. For not being as easy going as their dad when it comes to dolling out money
2. For not letting them watch Disney TV ALL DAY EVERY DAY when they are with me
3. For not letting them treat our house as an episode of 'supermarket sweep' when they are going back to their mums

As for my son..... I have no idea, he's not here yet, but I am sure he'll be embarrassed of me somewhere along the line....

So far (3) my dd's will be:

For not letting me have chocolate for breakfast.

For trying to stop me sleeping in mummy's bed (and failing).

For not letting me sleep with the dog.

For losing her temper with me when I was in a strop for no reason (I'm 3, I don't need a reason).

and for dh

For spending more time playing with the dog than with me

dd is never going to forgive me for giving her entire class (and their parents) the growing up talk in year 6. Complete with plastic models of fanjos and willies!

(nb I am a biology teacher, not some passing wierdo!)

Blimey - you all sound like PERFECT parents!

Making him eat healthy, no tv, no dvd. Err...no.

Mine will be

For making her worry about what I am going to say to her teacher every single parents evening.

For making her help out with the baby more than she should

For not doing fun family things every weekend

For not giving me brussel sprouts every day.

For telling me to have a go back at the bullies.

For expecting too much with my school grades.

For having 2 dads (even though it wasnt my fault).

I never forgave my mum for giving me a short back and sides hair cut from the age of 3 when all I wanted was long swishy hair. I used to put on the curtain tie back thing on my head as it had some nice long fringing and swishy it back and forth pretending it was my own lovely locks.

I was mistaken as a boy until I was 12

My hair is now down to my arse nearly!

However, I do have very fine, easily dreaded hair and a very sensitive scalp - and I was a total pain up the arse to brush or wash my hair apparantly so my mum cut it off to save her self from killing me probably.

On a sad note, She was too poorly to come to my grduation many moons ago and I said I really didnt mind as long as she was about for my wedding day and to see my kids being born... she died 4 months later

For telling him there were no vegetables in th 'hidden vegetables' baked beans I gave him on his jacket potato last night. He cried because he was certain they had vegetables in them (they did) and I told him I had put ketchup in them, that's why they tasted different (I didn't). I am such a wicked mother . I think he'll also remember how much I fall asleep on the sofa in the mornings.

For not being able to find a favourite, but slightly broken toy, when I know very well it went out with the rubbish months ago

DS1 has never forgiven me for running his primary school PTA for several years. WAY too embarrassing, apparently!

Having them in the first place