because I forcefully carried ds from one room (about 5 steps) to another against his wishes and kind of hurt his arms in the process. Whenever he doesn't want to be picked up he lifts his arms to the sky and goes all stiff and as a consequence it is difficult to lift him. It was about 7.30pm this evening and we were all tired, ds was in the hall fiddling with the buggy and I really wanted to be in the living room but didn't want to leave him unsupervised in the hall. I tried to lift him a couple of times unsuccessfully. Then I suddenly thought "I don't want to be in the hall" and just lifted him stiff arms and all. He moaned, partly because of doing something he didn't want to do and partly because it must have been uncomfortable round his armpits. As soon as I put him down I felt bad because he is only one and I could have just called him from the living room and seen if he came (though he didn't look as if he was going to budge).. but I didn't. While he is so little I am really conscious of trying not to do anything where I needlessly use my greater force over his to get him to do something simply for my own benefit (it's different in situations where they might hurt themselves etc...). It's difficult to manage all the time though, waiting for them to finish doing something or trying to persuade them to do something different...
Geniaxx