Toddler preferences with parents?

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So before I gave birth to 5 week old DD, I couldn’t move. My DS was so clingy but I see it as normal. I felt he sensed a change but was unsure what it was (he only turned 2 7 weeks ago so wasn’t even 2 throughout my pregnancy)

After my birth (c section and I’m ebf) DH has took a step back from his evening hobby of going to weight train and doing DS’ bedtime and I’d say we’ve been ‘dividing and conquering’ and he’s had to manage DS a bit more as I’m the only one who can currently BF our daughter

DS does now ask for his dad and doesn’t like him leaving, he’s a bit like this with me but his dads been doing nursery drop off since my birth so I’m assuming he’s used to this now and saying bye bye to me so daddy can take him (we practiced this a bit to ease him into it)

but he won’t come down of a morning without me he’d cry and shout for me at the bottom of the stairs / so he does want me close!

But am I silly to worry he’ll not love me as much? Am I being a bit hormonal and silly here ?? Haha

I think I’m so used to him being all for me that now he’s calmer and spending a bit more 1-2-1 time with his dad , im missing him ! :(

Definitely hormones! You are all adjusting to a new routine and family life and it will take a little time.
You’re missing him as much as he’s missing the one to one time with you.

Is there any way that you could leave your baby with your dh for a while and go and do something with your ds? Even if it’s a short walk around the block or a quick nip to the shops in between feeds, that way you’re still having quality time together.

Please remember though that this is just a phase and you’ll get through it! Your hormones are all over the place at the moment and you’re bound to be comparing this moment to the last pregnancy when it was just the 3 of you and you could spend all day cuddling one child. It’s a balance now and I know it feels hard but you’re doing an amazing job!