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11month DC acting unusual

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ohnowhatdidido · 25/02/2024 06:08

DC has had 40C fevers for two days now. We've been keeping it down with Calpol and took her to the urgent care centre. They checked her stats and said we were ok to go home and continue doing what we were.

But around 4am she woke up screaming. Completely inconsolable. She usually can be calmed down by a cuddle by me (mum) but she was very very upset. If I offered her a milk bottle she cried. Holding her didn't change how much she was crying. It's like she was suddenly scared of the room. She wasn't making any eye contact and almost as if she couldn't see me. She is overdue her Calpol and I expected her to be quite warm but she was actually cold to touch, not even room temperature , despite being in a long sleeved and closed toe baby grow/sleep suit.

I took her to the room my husband was sleeping in (we sometimes sleep separately if his snoring is bad) but she continued crying. When he tried taking her she cried a bit more. She can usually point to things or make gestures to indicate what she wants but it really felt like she couldn't register me. I called to her but she didn't react. Her temperature is reading 35C so despite being overdue her Calpol, it seems like her temperature is low now. She cried solidly for about 40mins. She then became quite subdued and just sat in my husband's arms. She didn't really look at me, she just stared into space. And about 20min later she fell asleep.

Her usual behaviour when unwell is that she does cry sometimes but will want me and is a bit more clingy than usual. She can still communicate what she wants and can still be cheered up by a silly dance or a game she likes. And so this felt very unusual. Especially given she wasn't feverish too.

I phoned 111 and they didn't seem concerned.
Earlier in the day, my husband and I had a horrible argument where we both shouted. In front of the baby. I am so worried that this is what has affected her. Husband and I have been having a few arguments lately in front of her. It is terrible and I feel so awful that it might be affecting her.

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Dontsparethehorses · 25/02/2024 06:21

I’d see if the behaviour continued on the day. In the night having had a fever for 2 days I imagine she was absolutely exhausted. It’s not great to shout in front of her but I’d suggest highly unlikely to be the cause of her behaviour

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Lammveg · 25/02/2024 19:56

Hi OP - I know this was very early this morning but wondering how you are?

The low temp is concerning and can be a sign of serious infection, particularly with the way she was acting. I know you called 111 but I hope you managed to get some more advice.

Lily124 · 25/02/2024 20:06

@ohnowhatdidido how is she doing now? What you're describing sound like red flags for sepsis to me (low temp, inconsolable, lethargic) and I'm sorry 111 weren't more helpful. Has she stayed like this through the day or better now? If she's still the same and you haven't seen or spoken to any other health professionals I'd take her to A&E

ohnowhatdidido · 25/02/2024 23:02

Hi @Lily124 and @Lammveg thank you for thinking of us. We did end up going to a&e because DC woke up with 39c temp and shivering.

A&E gave her ibuprofen and a urine test showed an infection and we are home with antibiotics.

Her behaviour in a&e and the rest of this evening has thankfully returned to her usual jolly and boisterous self. I am so relieved.

(And also am going to try so much harder to keep my cool. Nothing is worth DC suffering our awful bickering. )

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FusionChefGeoff · 25/02/2024 23:27

It could also be a night terror.

DC is now 11 and seems to have grown out of them but they are horrible. It's a waking nightmare basically where their body has woken but mind is still asleep.

He would be TERRIFIED and eyes darting around the room, couldn't be comforted, often we made it worse by trying to interact with him. Just have to ride it out until he eventually crashed back out again. He never remembered them and was always more likely to have them if he was ill or about to be ill.

FusionChefGeoff · 25/02/2024 23:29

Meant to say they started when he has about 2 and carried on until 8/9 so eventually he was able to answer questions and tell us he had no memory of spending 30 mins hysterically screaming the night before!

Lily124 · 26/02/2024 07:15

@ohnowhatdidido glad you got seen and she's on the right treatment now, hope she's all better soon

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