Legal advice on XP's GF

[OneSparklyFurball]

I have recently discovered that my XP's new girlfriend has been acting inappropriate around my 5 year old son.

I would like to say first of all that before I found this out, I had absolutely no problems with this woman. I don't know her personally but now I feel uncomfortable with her being around my child.

My XP and his GF like to go hiking as a family. I came across a photo of his GF only wearing her bottom half whilst with her children and mine.

I find this incredibly inappropriate as my child has only known this person just about a year. I have always educated my child on keeping private areas private, but she's exposing herself in a public place. I don't undress around my child and he has not seen my breasts since the last time I breastfed him.

I am the main caregiver, he stays with them on the weekends. There has been other things I know has happened that are questionable. I don't want to completely take my child away from their father but I no longer trust this woman around my child. I just think if you want to do that, do it in your own time just not around my child.

Am I overreacting?
What legal action can I take to report this incident?

Thanks.

Not able to offer legal advice, but I do not think you're over reacting.

Are you never going to take your child to a beach in case of topless sunbathers? Will you also ask all men to wear a top around him? Stop sexualising breasts. As long as she had her bottom half on private area respected all good.

She's hiking in public half naked??

Naked hiking, in this weather?!

I wouldn't be topless around other people's kids, but I am with my own, mostly due to breastfeeding dd (I also have a ds5). But they both try to get in the bath with me too. I don't think there's an issue with seeing normal naked bodies of family unit in your own home - and it is his home too? But I do see why you'd feel weird about it.

I forgot to mention that they were hiking in the rain so it's not exactly a natural place for you to be getting your breast out.

Also I am not sexualising breasts. I used to breastfeed in public and I support anyone who does. My main concern is that this woman who has not been in my child's life very long is exposing themselves, taking photos and then posting on social media for attention. I just find it all very weird and uncomfortable and don't want my child to be involved with someone like that.

She’s posting a half naked photo of herself on social media? Hiking in the rain?

Exactly that.

Yeah is this it? Is there more to it? Is she breastfeeding her child?

Blimey

I’d start by asking your ex about it and see what the explanation is as this is very odd

No she's not breastfeeding, she is just posing free with her breasts out, in the rain with children just running around. If you want to do that with your own children, carry on you parent the way you like to. Don't involve my child. I am around my partners child and it would never ever cross my mind to do anything of the sort around them.

How is it exposing herself if you aren't sexualising them? Should she wear gloves lest she expose her hands? Might be odd but ultimately they're boobs. They'll see them at the beach, they'll seen mens boobs the second the temp gets above 15 degrees all over the shop. Seeing them hiking in the rain is no different to her doing it on a beach on holiday no matter how odd it is. Your child doesn't have social media so her posting it on there will not affect their experience of it at all.

I honestly think you are completely missing my point here. The gloves comment is clearly over the top and I am not a snowflake or whatever you seem to think I am. I'm also not arguing with you of course you're entitled to your opinion and I thank you for it, I did ask for it after all. I just think you're completely missing the whole point of this post. Thank you for your comments and opinions all the same.

Just because you wouldn't do it doesn't make it illegal, bad parenting, or traumatising for your child. I'm not denying it's odd, but oddness isn't going to do much and all you'll do is sour the relationship. If your son was 14 and said he felt uncomfortable then yes I'd say talk to ex and say son said GF did this and he told me it made him uncomfortable so can you ask GF not to do so in future, but if your 5yo is happy and unbothered I can't see why voicing anything will help.

You can not like her personal boundaries or her parenting or her social media habits, but none of this is a threat to your children's welfare and there is no basis for any kind of legal action. Don't waste your own time, money and emotion trying.

Your children have already seen her boobs and yet the world continues to spin. If they see them again, it will make precisely zero difference to anything.

I would find this pretty strange but I’m not sure what sort of legal action you think you could take? Nakedness around family (even step family) isn’t abuse as far as I’m aware. Just let them know that you feel uncomfortable about it and you’d rather she didn’t.

I find it equally strange that your 5 yo hasn’t seen you naked since you breastfed him. My 4yo saw me insert a tampon yesterday 😂