Leaving baby with grandparents overnight

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Hi all. I am trying to psych myself up to leave DD with her grandparents overnight (my other half's mum and dad) at some point soon. She is currently 10 months old, turning 11 months in a couple of weeks and so far has only spent the day with them a few times. She is totally fine with them all day and has never shown any signs of separation anxiety. She's never been overly excited to see us when she's bought back on an evening either!!
I had some bad experiences with bullying at sleepovers when I was younger so the thought of being away from her overnight brings up a lot of sad/scary feelings, even though I know she would be safe and happy with them. I worry about her wondering why mum or dad aren't putting her to bed or why she's not sleeping in her own bed, but I don't know if this is just feelings I make up in my own head because of my own experiences.
If anyone is wondering why I'm trying to push myself to do this, me and my other half are getting married in November (just the two of us) which includes an overnight stay in the hotel we're getting married at, so I'd rather have her stay the night a few times before then so I'm not worrying on our wedding night.

Not really sure what I'm after with this post, I guess I'd like to hear other people's experiences leaving their little ones overnight for the first time and also to tell me if I'm being seriously daft! It feels like a massive step for me but I know once I've done it once I will be okay.

She will be absolutely fine. She obviously spends a lot of time with them anyway so it won't be a strange environment for her.

Personally I think it's great for children to have extended family houses that they are comfortable in. My dc adore having sleepovers with their grandparents and cousins. It only happens a few times a year but I am very comfortable that if we ever had an emergency that required a hospital stay, dc would be very happy going on holidays to extended family. It would be much scarier for them if they got to 8 or 9 and had never been away from home and then suddenly we weren't there.

Can’t imagine why baby wouldn’t be ok?
I’ve had all 3 of my GDs overnight from being a few weeks old…..as have all my friends…..at 10 months my eldest GD (now 8) had spent 5 nights with us while her parents went away….it was fine for everybody

Baby will be fine
Leave them to it

It sounds like it is the right time for you to do this. Just take the plunge and make sure you have some nice plans to keep you busy. Before you know it you will be picking her up again.

My son spent his first night with grandparents at about the same age when we went to an evening wedding reception in a hotel where we stayed the night, it wasn’t far away, so in-laws were told to ring us if he wasn’t happy, but he was fine and the start of regular sleepovers where I know he was spoilt rotten. We didn’t really relax the first couple of times, but it got better.

Thank you for your replies, I know I just need to go for it. I know she would be fine, it's just my own mind I need to overcome. It will also be better for her in the long run.

Could you possibly have a trial run and all stay for a night, letting GP put her to bed as a 'treat' first?

This is a good idea, however I feel like I'd be better just dropping her off like she's staying for the day and leave her there for the night and see how she gets on.

I'm sure she will be fine OP but if you don't feel ready leave it until after the summer, your wedding isn't until November, you have plenty time to get her to stay a couple of times before then & you might feel much better about it in 6 months