Parenting is hard

[Theblackdogagain]

I have 2 14 year old boys.
One recently has a girlfriend that he sees at weekends, I've spoken to her parents and we are both 100 % school and behaviour comes first.
Today my son has been kicking off at his brother and then at me including bad language.
I've taken his phone off him until Tuesday ( it went up a day at a time with every use of the word cunt).
I'm not giving him the phone back until then but should I let his girlfriend know he's had his phone confiscated? Her parents are away this weekend otherwise I would have let her mum know.
I hate to think of a teenage girl thinking she's being ignored. I don't have her number, just her mums.

It's not your responsibility to let his friends know why he isn't contactable or responding to messages, that's part of the consequence of taking the phone away. He can explain himself on Monday.

As a parent of a 14 year old girl, I think I would do this, just out of care to the girlfriend. The poster above is right that it isn't your responsibility but it feels like the kind thing to do really.

If he sees her in weekends anyway then he can tell her when he sees her tomorrow

So hes not seeing her tomorrow and they are not at the same school so I've been feeling a bit guilty about it.
I let him have his phone for 5 mins do he could message her, she had left over 99 messages so I feel bad now , but at least she knows now.
He's trying to get his phone back and give up the ps4 instead but I have to keep to the punishment but at least she knows its his mean mother taking away his phone and not him.

Over 99 messages..... Wow..... No wonder kids struggle with mental health more than ever now......

99 messages?

Fucking yikes.

The thread title says it all

Parenting is damn hard, even with children who are considered well-behaved.
Often, most children, its in one ear out of the other, just like I did.
However, my parents did not have to contend with the dread smart phones or mobiles for that matter,

OP, you done well, about contacting the GF - forget it.

Agree with this poster. Possibly causing the girl emotional distress unwittingly. Let her know them take it away again. 14 is a hard age to be romantically linked/besotted!