Five minutes

[SackOfShitandRegrets]

Anyone ever feel they just need five minutes to yourself, no children, no partner just time alone.

Often feel this way but then feel horrible and guilty.

Currently with one of DC hugging on sofa (but it's a hug where they lean on you with back whilst laying back and facing away) and can feel my ribs being squashed so not enjoying as should

I need more than 5 mins to myself. I think it’s normal.

Have your kids get that book 5 minutes peace with the elephant? I often feel like the mum elephant and find myself saying it.

You have a partner why can’t he take them out? Yes I feel this way often but I’m a lone parent

Yes absolutely. DD is 3.5 and all over me all the time, she stands on my feet and elbows me in the face constantly , wants to sit with her chair jammed against mine every meal time, if she wants me to do something she just repeats it again and again and again until I do it even when I've said I will when I've finished doing x. Drives me potty! It's very sweet she wants to be near me but it's just too much sometimes, even with breaks.

My husband gets 30 min every morning to shit in peace, but I can't even brush my teeth without someone appearing at my feet

They were taking one DC to their social club, tried to get DD to go for the journey but said no:(

Yep 100% this DD is 11 and autistic

You shouldn’t feel guilty. You are your own person and so are they. Everyone needs mental space to themselves at some point. Anything less would be unhealthy.

Your partner needs to support this and you also need to carve out deliberate time for yourself. Don’t ask. Don’t be a martyr. Just do it. “I’m just popping out to the shop for a quick mooch and some headspace, see you in a bit…” (or a long bath, or the hairdressers, your mum’s, or netball etc… whatever gives you some respite).

Also encourage and praise your DC for playing and occupying themselves independently. This benefits them so much too.

Of course! Totally normal.

DP definitely needs to make sure this happens. That's part of being a partnership. Don't be a matyr. Can't understand why you're having an uncomfortable hug - just change position?

Personally I'm looking forward to a bit of a tele binge when the kids are in bed. What would you like to do?

Of course. But I negotiate it with DH (he needs some time too obvs).