Hi there,
Just after a bit of advice or experience of a similar situation. A bit of background, Myself and husband split up last summer. We are currently nesting in the family home whilst it sells (up now) never sleep in the house at the same time.
it’s not going great and due to his job I’m finding it really hard to pin him down to any sort of routine, but a normal week would consist of him sleeping here two nights and then being elsewhere 5, then I stop at my parents when he’s here for the two nights. No set days though, usually one through the week and one weekend.
anyway, I’m having a bit of an issue with my 7 year old DD. She has always been very clingy with me, always liked me to sit next to her on the couch etc. but she seems to have got a little bit more clingy and jealous when her 10 year old brother wants to sit with me or even cuddles me. My DS is incredibly patient but I can see it’s upsetting him that he never seems to get time with me without DD getting upset or jealous. I’m trying my best to get time with him but it’s hard, I feel like my DD is genuinely upset when I cuddle him and not her as if I’ve chosen him instead. I don’t want either of them upset but I need to try and figure out how to help her through this jealousy and insecurity. When I stop out, she FaceTimes me every night, sometimes twice to say goodnight. I’m trying to make this as easy as I can for them both but it’s breaking my heart that they are clearly both struggling. How have others helped their DC through any sort of issue like this?
my friend had my DD over for a sleepover last Friday (she’s got a little girl the same age) so my and DS had a film night and sleepover and it was lovely but not something that can happen all that regularly.
thanks for any help.