My 12 year old DD wanted to maintain a relationship with her stepfather (she has never had a relationship with her biological dad ) when we split 4 years ago. I have shared care with our son who is 8 now. Both kids were 8 and 4 at the time of the family break up. My ex does not pay child support as we have the shared care arrangement for our son. However things have become very very strained between my DD and her stepdad. Tonight I have to listen to a phone call where he called her a nasty little b**tch and that he was taking her key back and that her room is no longer hers and that he is going to rent it out. It was a WhatsApp call and it was so bad I was looking for a way to record it. It was mainly him yelling at her and telling her to bag up her stuff in a bin liner. She is then claiming he hit her and he said she was trying to kick him and he batted her away. I realise this is no longer somewhere she can stay or go after school. The problem is that stepdad and his family will be back next week as though nothing has happened Ex partners family all enable his lack of ability to manage his temper and anger. Ex is blaming me for it all saying I have influenced her against him.....this is is clearly the end of the road for him as her stepdad. I went to collect her within 30 minutes of overhearing what was happening it was no accident that I heard the call.