Am I being unreasonable with husband?

[Fifitricks]

My daughter is 9 months old this week. First baby.
My husband and I have always been active people and gym goers. Now I have adapted and go 2 evenings a week at 7 and a Saturday morning when she naps. My husband is in the office Tuesday and Wednesday where he is not there from morning till after bedtime so he goes gym super early those mornings which is fine. Then the other days we wants to go the mornings also, however we works till 6.30/7 also so basically I am on all the time during the week except when I go he takes her from around 6.30 and she goes to bed at 7.
Don't get me wrong he never has said no when I want to do something and he does have a close bond with our daughter. I just feel the split during the week is off.
I said to him last night this isn't going to work. We have 0 family time and are passing ships and sure he got so defensive and said this is why he isn't having another baby. Thought I was having a go and I said I am not having a go, you just don't like what I am saying.
Thoughts please?

You're in the mire of parenting.

It sounds like he is getting more free time than you, is that right? It also reads like he hasn't adjusted his lifestyle to having a baby around.
I'm assuming you're on mat leave at the moment so enabling his time at the gym because you're at home. Have you both sat down and made a plan for when you return to work?

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You feel like there's an imbalance and that's something the pair of you need to discuss and work out as a couple. It's tough in the first few years. Getting defensive and using it as leverage against growing your family doesn't feel conducive to a proactive conversation. Maybe try sitting him down at a neutral time and discussing it calmly. I'm sure you'll be able to work it out as a team. Have been a parent for 5 years now and have often realised fair doesn't have to mean equal. My husband goes away a lot more than me, because I'm a homebird and I quite like time in the house. So is our time away equal? No. Does it work for us. Yes. All about getting the balance right for you both in your individual and couple situations!