My ex husband and I had a horrific break up (he had an affair, classic love story really!). His parents were never really involved with our kids. Not bad people but did their own thing and never bothered with the kids. When the marriage ended, the ex inlaws cut contact with me (blood is thicker than water, I get it). But not once, to this day, have they ever been in touch to ask how the kids are, if they need anything or to see them. In the last few months my ex has met with them and the kids at a halfway point for both. My daughter and her and her Grandmother have either exchanged numbers, or it was passed on by her Dad. My daughter now texts her Grandmother every evening to say good night (my daughter initiates this, there is no other conversation other than a good night from my daughter, and her Grandmother replies with the same).
My kids went through an extremely difficult time when their Dad first left and I am so disappointed that her Grandparents on that side did not check on them at all for over a year, and the only reason there is any contact now is because it is initiated by my child! Am I right to be angry/hurt by this? My daughter is only 11 and I also feel it's really underhand to bypass me and go directly to her, particularly when they didn't offer any form of support to the kids at a time they needed it most 😢