So my son turns 2 in April. I’ve already started planning his birthday. My mother in law called my partner and said “I AM THROWING HIS PARTY IN MY HOUSE NEXT YEAR”. And my partner said ok. I wasn’t asked or even included in the discussion. when I brought it up with my partner he said there is nothing wrong with her doing his party and that I was being petty.
throwing your child a birthday party is so much fun and I love the fact that I can finally do that. And I don’t understand why she wants to take that away from me. She lives about 2 hours away along with all his cousins (that he never met) and she wants to invite them all.
to that I say okay that sounds nice. But why didn’t she ask me? And say something like “do the party at my house next year so that the extended family can come too” which I would be ok with. But she wants to plan the whole thing. Cake. Decorations. Food. Etc and I am just to show up.
is it just me or does that sound really odd? I’ve told her in the past (different issue) that she already experienced being a parent and did all this when her kids were little and now it’s my turn. But her response was BUT NOW IM A GRANDMA AND I WANT TO DO IT WITH MY GRANDKIDS. so… where does that leave me? Feels like she’s trying to co parent. And my partner won’t say anything to her.
please tell me if I’m overreacting and this isn’t a big deal… or if I have a point and grandparents should just show up and enjoy the party.