Unsure how to manage DS behaviour

[Citywhalls]

He’s 3, he isn’t too bad but sometimes like all three year olds will be really silly and just doesn’t listen to me or respond at all. I find this really hard. So to give an example he keeps grabbing the mop and running round with it. I say no and he just ignores me and carries on. I end up having to grapple it out of his hands, which I don’t think is the best approach but I’m not sure what else to do.

I found saying no makes them do it more!

I changed my wording, 'mummy needs the mop, can you help me mop the floor or give it to mummy'
He would then mop the floor for 20 seconds and get bored and drop it or pass it back.

I quite enjoyed reading How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen.

Like pp said, it’s meant to be more effective to tell them what they should be doing, not what they shouldn’t be doing.
E.g. “walk slowly if you’ve got the mop please” / “put the mop back here when you’ve finished mopping” / “give it to me please - what are we going to play with next?”.

Also there’s nothing wrong with wrestling it back as a last resort. If you’ve said he can’t have it then it’s good to enforce that.

Oh I haven’t found that book effective at all, sorry.

I know what you mean about saying no but I do find it hard when he doesn’t seem to listen to anything!