Christening

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My OH half thinks I’m crazy but I think it would be a lovely idea to arrange for our youngest daughter to be Christened in May. My reason being that I was Christened on Sunday 19th May on my 3rd birthday by my Grandad (he’s a vicar). We had a joint Christening for our older children on Sunday 19th May 2019 again carried out by my Grandad. He is my last remaining Grandparent and I think it would be lovely for our baby to be Christened on the same date by her Great-Grandad whilst he’s still able to do so. I know really the date doesn’t particularly matter but I just think it’s lovely that we could all share the same date and be able to say we were all christened by my Grandfather. OH not so convinced as we don’t even have anyone in mind to be Godparents and I was also made redundant on Maternity leave so the unnecessary cost also puts him off. I was thinking we could just invite people back to ours for tea and cake.

You're going to have to spell out your DH's objection to me because I don't understand. Why is it crazy to be planning a christening in May?

It's three months away, which is more lead time than is typical for a christening. And it doesn't have to be expensive- we just had a lunch/tea party at our house afterwards.

Cost?! A christening is free. The church legally can’t charge for it.

I think it’s a nice idea and I don’t understand the objection either if your older children are baptised/christened

Sorry maybe I wasn’t clear, been up since 4am with the baby. He only thinks I’m crazy to think the date matters, not that the idea of a christening is crazy. And I know there’s no charge for the Christening itself, I mean the cost of whatever you choose to do afterwards. We fed and provided alcohol for everybody last time but I figure tea and cake would be just fine :)

Tea and cake is fine. You don't need to have a big party. Book it for May and enjoy the christening!

Does he think you're crazy or is he just not as fussed about it as you are? Just see if you can organise it however you want to do it

If he actually thinks it's "crazy" then that's not very nice the date clearly matters to you.

There isn’t a right answer, if it matters to you then plan it. Hope you can enjoy the day, tea and cake or not.

Is grandad still the vicar? I’m only asking as I am the Baptism Coordinator for our church and there is no way you’d get a Baptism booked for May now. But if Grandad is still working then it won’t be an issue.

@IncognitoUsername I think it will depend on the church. Where I used to work there’s a 6 month waiting list (30 or so baptisms a year) but where I live they only have 2 or 3 a year.

Tea and cake is lovely OP.

To get the baby christened, same as the older children isn't a strange thing at all.
To be SO fixated that the dates all need to match is a bit bonkers- Yes!

Book it in. You have 3mths to choose godparents. Tea and cake is fine. Buy some supermarket cakes to cut up, rope in a friend/relative to bake some cakes, or get a £15 online costco subscription to get cakes/sandwich platters.