9yo....... It's a tricky age!

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My daughter is 9. I'm finding it's not an easy age! Lots of shouting at us. Terrible attitude problem! But she calls me and everyone else "rude" all the time. Talks to me like I'm something she's stepped on. Dissolves into tears over nothing. So fussy! Wants to stay little forever then be independent the next. And the friendship dramas! With the blow by blow accounts, she said I said. I love her dearly, but send wine.

Everyone else loving 9 then 😅

I am actually loving 9. I think it is a great age. I don't recognise a lot of your post. I guess they are all different. 🤷‍♀️

Oh op I couldn't agree more! I feel like I have seen into the teenage years and they're gonna be stinkers!!

My DD is 8 but one of the youngest in her class and most of her friends are 9. A lot of parents are struggling with exactly what you describe. Dd hasn't really hit any of this yet, except the friendship dramas. I imagine there are a lot of hormonal changes happening around his time, which are earlier for some than others. This too shall pass (hopefully).

In the same, my daughter is just lovely at the minute growing up into a mature little person and really mild mannered! Maybe 10 will be my hard year 😂

Dts weee lovely at 9, now at 13 we're getting the attitude. They were also lovely at two, no terrible twos but four was horrendous.

I think they hit their phases late, op hopefully yours will be done with it by the time she hits her teens!

Oh dear! We have boys and they weren’t anything like this at 9.
Pick your battles, set some boundaries, be clear and consistent.

Remind yourself it’s just a phase and get battle ready for the next one!!

Hoping my ds won't be like this when he gets to 9 then!!!! So far they are chalk and cheese.

I hear you. My DD is 9 and is the same. She's really tall for her age and had developed quite early. She needs a little bra or crop top but absolutely will not wear one. I'm lost for any ideas. Over tried bribery, I've ordered various types. She agrees she likes them and when I get them home refuses to wear them. How can I get her to agree. Help.

I have a 9 year old boy. He is occasionally grumpy but that’s when he’s tired or hungry.
Otherwise he’s lovely- chatty, sensitive and inquisitive.

Love him being 9- it was 7-8 that was hard work.

You can't get her to agree - it's her body.

And no-one "needs" to wear a bra.

Tell her she can't wear them, a bit of reverse psychology often works 😂

@SatdayHatday my 9yo Dd has been getting upset about not wanting to grow up. She's been picking clothes she thinks look younger. Maybe there's something like this playing in with your dd.

Mine is 9 and completely drama free! She's very laid back and great company - has been since she was about 3 although baby and toddler stage was beyond hard for various reasons. I have no idea how I'll cope when it all kicks off, which of course it will at some point.